Supplementary school

maman

Does the mosque insist that the boys are there twice if you and their father want to attend parents evening separately? 🤔 Surely many parents can't attend together for many reasons like work commitments or childcare. It's something mainstream schools face all the time and generally just arrange appointments at another time.

TBagpuss

Legally, as he has Parental Responsibility for the children he is entitled to information about them from third parties so he is entitled to access information from the mosque, or from their schools, doctors, scout leader or any other third party organisation they are involved with.

That said, there is nothing to stop you arranging to attend things such as parents evenings whether or not the children are with you on the relevant day.

Child support is based on the income of the paying parent, so it isn't calculated based on what is actually needed to cover a fair share of the cost of caring for a child. Legally, he is not obliged to pay more than the CMS amount, and that's separate from his role as their father, so just as you couldn't stop or limit contact if he wasn't paying, or wasn't paying a suitable amount, and he couldn't stop paying if he wasn't having the contact he wanted, you shouldn't (as it is not of benefit to the children) seek to stop him being involved with their education or other parts of their life just because he is not contributing. 

If the fact that he is not helping with the extra costs means that you can't afford to have them continue to go, then of course you would be entitled to stop sending them to the classes, or to look for alternative options that are less expensive - he can't force you to send the children at your own expense.

Rachna_83

Thank you @TBagpuss that is a very balanced way of looking at it.