My Parking space 🚗

rubble2

I would personally not go into the reasons that you do not want to comply with this request as e.g. you say I want to keep it for future use, it gives them a comeback opportunity of ' can I just use it until you need it?'

I would politely say no without further explanation  but thank them for contacting you in advance and not just using the space without prior permission.

Le_Kirk

another_casualty said:

I’m thinking of maybe buying an old banger and getting it dumped in my space . The collapsible bollard crossed my mind again .

That may make me unpopular in the block, not that I’m popular/ unpopular anyway. 

Check your tenancy agreement carefully; you might find that any car parked there has to be roadworthy, taxed and insured.  Lot of cost and trouble for the sake of a collapsible bollard.

mrschaucer

another_casualty said:

Anyway , having the only empty parking space does make me stand out like a sore thumb , and maybe look selfish.
Having ( and in my case not having) a car brings out the worst in people

Please don't think you have to make excuses, or think that saying no looks selfish.
She is the one with the problem, not you.  She has politely asked - you can politely refuse.  If anyone thinks that's rude, then tough.

another_casualty

mrschaucer said:

another_casualty said:

Anyway , having the only empty parking space does make me stand out like a sore thumb , and maybe look selfish.
Having ( and in my case not having) a car brings out the worst in people

Please don't think you have to make excuses, or think that saying no looks selfish.
She is the one with the problem, not you.  She has politely asked - you can politely refuse.  If anyone thinks that's rude, then tough.

Thanks very much for your caring post .
This has made me feel more ar ease so to speak . I think that you have put everything very well in context . I will post a polite short and sweet note advising her that I cannot grant access as I do have visitors and that the landlord is mis informed , and thank her for not intruding etc .

theonlywayisup

rubble2 said:

I would personally not go into the reasons that you do not want to comply with this request as e.g. you say I want to keep it for future use, it gives them a comeback opportunity of ' can I just use it until you need it?'

I would politely say no without further explanation  but thank them for contacting you in advance and not just using the space without prior permission.

This.

I have a rule that there is never a need to make an excuse.  You just simply say 'no thank you'.  There is no explanation needed and explanations usually give a declined person a need to pick holes (I am not saying this will happen here) but you don't need to expand on anything more than a polite decline. 

theonlywayisup

another_casualty said:

mrschaucer said:

another_casualty said:

Anyway , having the only empty parking space does make me stand out like a sore thumb , and maybe look selfish.
Having ( and in my case not having) a car brings out the worst in people

Please don't think you have to make excuses, or think that saying no looks selfish.
She is the one with the problem, not you.  She has politely asked - you can politely refuse.  If anyone thinks that's rude, then tough.

 I will post a polite short and sweet note advising her that I cannot grant access as I do have visitors and that the landlord is mis informed , and thank her for not intruding etc .

No need to explain.

Dear Named Neighbour
Thank you very much for your note and enquiry as to availability of my parking space.  I am not in a position to allow it's use at this moment [you could add that should events change you will revisit] but hope you manage to find something.  Best wishes blah blah. 

That's all. 

another_casualty

theonlywayisup said:

another_casualty said:

mrschaucer said:

another_casualty said:

Anyway , having the only empty parking space does make me stand out like a sore thumb , and maybe look selfish.
Having ( and in my case not having) a car brings out the worst in people

Please don't think you have to make excuses, or think that saying no looks selfish.
She is the one with the problem, not you.  She has politely asked - you can politely refuse.  If anyone thinks that's rude, then tough.

 I will post a polite short and sweet note advising her that I cannot grant access as I do have visitors and that the landlord is mis informed , and thank her for not intruding etc .

No need to explain.

Dear Named Neighbour
Thank you very much for your note and enquiry as to availability of my parking space.  I am not in a position to allow it's use at this moment [you could add that should events change you will revisit] but hope you manage to find something.  Best wishes blah blah. 

That's all. 

That is so well put, and to the point .
This Is the way to go 
Thank you 😼👍

another_casualty

I forgot to mention, that someone pressed my intercom on Thursday evening . 

As I no longer answer it unless it I know it’s something/ somebody for me  , I think that it was probably the person who dropped the letter in my door yesterday.

Thanks very much for your very constructive and super helpful advice ..

theonlywayisup

another_casualty said:

theonlywayisup said:

another_casualty said:

mrschaucer said:

another_casualty said:

Anyway , having the only empty parking space does make me stand out like a sore thumb , and maybe look selfish.
Having ( and in my case not having) a car brings out the worst in people

Please don't think you have to make excuses, or think that saying no looks selfish.
She is the one with the problem, not you.  She has politely asked - you can politely refuse.  If anyone thinks that's rude, then tough.

 I will post a polite short and sweet note advising her that I cannot grant access as I do have visitors and that the landlord is mis informed , and thank her for not intruding etc .

No need to explain.

Dear Named Neighbour
Thank you very much for your note and enquiry as to availability of my parking space.  I am not in a position to allow it's use at this moment [you could add that should events change you will revisit] but hope you manage to find something.  Best wishes blah blah. 

That's all. 

That is so well put, and to the point .
This Is the way to go 
Thank you 😼👍

It won't offend, it does the job and is polite.  If you add the 'may revisit' part it gives some flexibility for the future - which may mean she asks again before you offer, but that's fine.  But giving excuses or reasons may mean that this person watches to see if those reasons for denial are valid.  You don't need that.  Keep it simple.  Good luck and you may want to sign up to Hot UK deals for any whisky offers!

prowla

What if you have friends come an visit - where might they park?

Some time ago I used to catch the train with a group of people and one of them let another park in their drive; well, one day she let someone else use it and there was all hell to pay - people not talking to each other and suchlike.