O/S Daily Wednesday 10 November 2021

Gers

Morning all. 

For the first time in ages I slept through the night. I resisted taking a sleeping pill until last night, perhaps I'll function better with more sleep. Bella - you're right about not wanting to mix, I feel the same. On my last overnight stay in Glasgow a friend invited me to a gin evening with others in a place really close to my hotel. I agreed and then pulled out as I couldn't face it. I'm looking forward to feeling differently. 

Yesterday I ducked outside in a dry spell to fill up the various bird feeders. I was hardly back inside when the birds were flocking to them, I enjoyed watching them for a while. Later I was dealing with the final legal paperwork from the Confirmation of DM's estate, the solicitor tied everything up by emailing  me invoices and payments from the sale of the flat. I'll probably scan in all the hard copies of the paperwork I have and then burn the originals. 

Hugs to our poorlies and thanks to everyone. Happy Wednesday to all. 

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Morning, hugs if you need one.

We cleared out a cupboard in our bedroom, so it will be going on the local selling page, it would be great for a project for someone. I need to take pictures of it. We still have some of the rubbish to clear. Yesterday we shredded 10 years worth of diaries that DB had been hoarding. I have just kept last years.

I have started on a second sew out of that design using shades of pink, I need to find some neutral fabric to make up the cushion cover.

Expecting a raft of deliveries today, our shredded worked when it thought it would, so I have bought a cross cut, it was the same price as the original one I bought over 10 years ago. 

The mince an tatties turned into beef stew and tatties, I really must mark stuff I put in the freezer. Will do smoked haddock, poached egg and bread and butter tonight.

Sunfl0w3r

Good morning,

Dry and chilly here this morning🥶

We're going for a spin today to pick up some tickets for my daughter for when she comes home at Christmas🎅

Then this afternoon I'm going to drop some bits and bobs at a friends as she has a Christmas Fair this weekend

Pizza for tea so nice and easy🍕

Have a good day🌻

-taff

Morning all..Taking my car in a bit, the mechanic is no early riser either, and the long walk back...If I don't get it back, friends will be coming here for coffee, so I'd better make a nibble or two for later on...Maybe cheese straws, they're pretty easy...We'll see...Did another two loads yesterday in the wm, one of them is on the line [ getting wetter as I type] but they're the linens that were on the windows, so it won't hurt them. And there's another one or two loads today to do. Hopefully that will be it although they don't include the towels which could also do with cleaning which will be another two loads there...Joy...

I emptied the car finally yesterday and gave it a good hoovering and wipe over inside so at least it looks fairly presentable on the inside now. The outside, not so much, it really needs a good polish as well as a clean, but one with T-Cut or something to hide the scratches...And the film was good. I've read the book so many times I knew everything that was happening or going to happen but it was good to see an updated better CGI version of it. If they do all of the books I'll be very impressed..Hope they do...

Good news Ruby buy I don't understand why they want you to work more? I'd have thought it would be plain that you're having a hard time doing it at the moment, so...Gers, Bella, I'm not so sure the pandemic isn't reponsible for that too..I don't want to go and mix with loads of people to talk to etc, I've lost the art of small talk and I didn't have much of that to begin with...Scarlet, enjoy your chat, are they one of the Dob*s that do really nice cakes? Rosy, well done avoiding the supercold....Right, off for the long walk back..Take care all, warm huggy blankets...

TravellingAbuela

Morning folks and thanks NMLC. Mild here too but a bit dismal looking. Oh well can't have everything.

Well done to those of you agreeing to have bereavement counselling I'm sure you will benefit from it.  I'm sure if I had accepted it when I lost Bob three years ago I would be handling life better than I am. But I've always been a stubborn old fool and thought I was strong enough to work through it myself. My family and close friends have been supportive throughout but it's not easy to express your innermost feelings to them and occasionally things happen that I can't cope with.  What brought this to a head this time was a big family birthday party (postponed from last year's lockdown) on Bob's side of the family. I couldn't bear to think of going when he wasn't there with me, especially as it was midway between his anniversary and birthday. so not a good time for me anyway. And please don't think of me as a bad person when I say this, as truly I'm not, but DD was showing me photos of everybody there enjoying themselves, laughing and dancing, and I really hated them all for being there when he wasn't.  

Don't get me wrong, I haven't been sitting here wallowing in misery for the whole three years but I know my limits. I am happy with my own family and close friends but have no interest in socialising beyond that and I am struck dumb if I have to talk to anyone who I don't know. I can only look back and realise I should have agreed to the counselling when it was offered and I would be coping better than I sometimes do. 

There that's off my chest now and if it urges someone else to seek help when it's offered then that's good.  Meanwhile I am thinking of others of you in the same position and the usual ((BIG HUGS)) for our poorlies, poorly loved ones and MIA.  RUBY that sounds like good news for you, well done. Take care one and all and stay safe xx

nannywindow

Morning folks, it's another damp day here, but not raining, seems par for the course lately. I slept heavily last night and woke with an almighty headache, so I'm still trying to get my head together. Mr Fix It has been talking me through our online accounts and I have been trying to take things in 😦 I'm taking notes as I'll have forgotten in an hour ! I'll probably lose the paper anyway 🤣

Mr Fix has sent off a stern text to the O*pen Reach engineer as he's fast loosing his patience with him, mine went gone a long time ago, anyway he should be getting back to us today, we'll see.

I had most of DGD xmas presents delivered yesterday so I'm concentrating on the DGS now. I did put a cs bag out for collection today and had a fright as on the wall steps was an errant stone which I tried to remove..... until it jumped 😱 Turned out to be a frog or toad 🐸, well it was dark ! Not much else was done yesterday because DGD was here (apparently she's feeling better today so has gone to school, well it was either that or stay home with SiL ( maths teacher) who is working from home today and would probably give her some homework to do 😁 ).

DD has gone to the hospital for her 1st treatment this morning, she was due to start when covid hit, I hope she's ok, I'll speak to her later. I have to collect DGD from school this afternoon and get her ready for her horse riding lesson. DD will collect us and then after the lesson we'll call in C*sta for a hot choc with all the trimmings and maybe a mince pie for me 😁

I'm another who doesn't like lots of people, I've given up Xmas shopping in person because there are too many people about and it makes me anxious.

Gers thanks for the info but apparently it only applies to BT customers and we're with S*y, but we may be forced to move after many years 🤬

TA hope you feel better today. Have a hug anyway.

Take care all, hugs to the poorly ones and good luck to who has an appointment, sorry forgotten who that was.

nan xx

-taff

TA, you know there's always a time to start...it's not too late if you did want some now...

snoozer

TA, I second that, definitely look into counselling. I know several people who have benefitted even many years after the trauma they suffered.

We're still working our way through this horrible cold, neither of us have been making much progress through it so it's just as well we couldn't go down to look after Esben today, I don't think we'd have the energy for it.

Talking of Esben, he is moving to an older room at nursery and Laura has been told they need outdoor gear to leave there as well as 3 changes of clothes every day, I don't know if they think the parents are made of money, especially after the fees they charge.

Anyway, I have no news because we are lolling around watching tv for the most part at the moment.

Have a good day.

maddiemay

TA I third what the others have said. It was 10 years after our baby GD died and 12 after her maternal GM in an horrific accident and I did not go specifically for bereavement counselling, but it brought it all up and really helped me.  OH wouldn't go (surprise not) and our relationship might not have gone through such rocky patches if he had not just shut everything out.

Take care all.

Suffolksue

TA another one saying it is never too late .I’m sure your hospice would still see you .