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Embarrassing Will - am I required to send a copy (& accounts) to all beneficiaries?

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  • Mojisola
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    Langtang said:

    Just to add some context, my niece had to execute her father's will (my brother) after her mother had died and he had married a second time.  His second will effectively disinherited my niece and her brother, but she executed it because that's what my brother had chosen her to do.
    Wow. Simply wow. "You're getting nowt, but I want you to give it all to those that are getting some" Not for me to comment, but....
    As an aside, I always thought that you asked someone if they'd like to be an executor - we certainly have. Can you just appoint anyone to do this?
    You can but there is a risk that your choice of executor will refuse the job.
    It takes time and effort to do the job, especially if there is a house to clear out - we have left our executors an extra sum on top of their inheritance in recognition of this.
  • Rodders53
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    Langtang said:
    Wow. Simply wow. "You're getting nowt, but I want you to give it all to those that are getting some" Not for me to comment, but....
    Read the original (first post) properly --- it states

    I'm an executor (and a beneficiary) for a family member.


  • BooJewels
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    @Rodders53 - I think you'll find that the comment was in respect of the cited example - not by the OP and appropriately quoted - that was being commented upon.
  • Manxman_in_exile
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    edited 16 July 2021 at 9:07PM
    Langtang said:

    Just to add some context, my niece had to execute her father's will (my brother) after her mother had died and he had married a second time.  His second will effectively disinherited my niece and her brother, but she executed it because that's what my brother had chosen her to do.


    Wow. Simply wow. "You're getting nowt, but I want you to give it all to those that are getting some" Not for me to comment, but....

    As an aside, I always thought that you asked someone if they'd like to be an executor - we certainly have. Can you just appoint anyone to do this?

    Well she and her brother weren't completely disinherited - they only(!) lost about 95% of what they would have received if my brother had not remarried.  Plus her two sons received specific bequests - although I would describe those bequests as nominal and symbolic rather than in any sense meaningful. 

    Maybe she didn't trust anybody else to execute the will properly.  (By profession she's a lawyer, but my brother would have chosen her because she was his daughter and he would have trusted her to do the job properly, even though she wasn't doing it in a professional capacity).

    Yes - you can basically appoint anybody as your executor, but it makes sense to appoint somebody sensible.

    The thing is, appointing an executor is a serious business.  Don't appoint anybody you don't think can do the job.  And if you are appointed as an executor it's your job to carry out their wishes expressed in the will - and not to either approve or disapprove of those wishes.  You can't let personal feelings influence you.  If you can't do that, renounce the executorship.
  • BooJewels said:
    @Rodders53 - I think you'll find that the comment was in respect of the cited example - not by the OP and appropriately quoted - that was being commented upon.
    I think you're right.  It was my family experience being quoted, not anything the OP posted.
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