Neighbour dispute

deannagone

The problem with neighbour disputes is how they are handled by both parties, each a bit on the 'I have right on my side' angry side (you wouldn't be considering your options if you weren't a little bit angry).  The problem with neighbour disputes, they tend to escalate.., and of course the parties involved never know why.  

Why not have a nice chat with your neighbour, sympathise with him over people driving over his grass whether they do or not (its his perception)..,the rocks aren't causing you any problems its seems so you lose nothing with this change of attitude. Then you might be able to make sure you are always able to access your garage (assuming this is the problem with the gate, otherwise I'm not sure why it is a problem really).  This is obviously a man who is feeling a bit invaded.  And needs careful handling, with diplomacy.  A bit of diplomacy now could save you a lot of aggro and even legal fees later.  

How often does a wall need rendering? if its in between the two properties one would hope its not inundated with rain.  Is it worth further aggro?  You can just render around the gate post which can't be too big.

I am not unsympathetic to your situation, just trying to suggest a solution that might avoid developing problems later on.  Sometimes this is the sensible option, even if it requires taking a step back from emotions..  

Martin_the_Unjust

deannagone said:

The problem with neighbour disputes is how they are handled by both parties, each a bit on the 'I have right on my side' angry side (you wouldn't be considering your options if you weren't a little bit angry).  The problem with neighbour disputes, they tend to escalate.., and of course the parties involved never know why.  

Why not have a nice chat with your neighbour, sympathise with him over people driving over his grass whether they do or not (its his perception)..,the rocks aren't causing you any problems its seems so you lose nothing with this change of attitude. Then you might be able to make sure you are always able to access your garage (assuming this is the problem with the gate, otherwise I'm not sure why it is a problem really).  This is obviously a man who is feeling a bit invaded.  And needs careful handling, with diplomacy.  A bit of diplomacy now could save you a lot of aggro and even legal fees later.  

How often does a wall need rendering? if its in between the two properties one would hope its not inundated with rain.  Is it worth further aggro?  You can just render around the gate post which can't be too big.

I am not unsympathetic to your situation, just trying to suggest a solution that might avoid developing problems later on.  Sometimes this is the sensible option, even if it requires taking a step back from emotions..  

This ^ is the most sensible advice here. 

As granny used to say, you catch far more with honey than you do with vinegar.

Irishpearce26

The house I've just purchased in March has the neighbors gate attached to the side of my house. Im not really bothered as they seem like nice people. I cant see how its bolted on and haven't given it much thought until you raised this thread. Will i ask them to remove it? No its not doing any harm but i will check the condition of the wall and i will be sure to check every couple of months to ensure it doesn't wreck the brick work.

Irishpearce26

eve7834 said:

Its the side of a detached house no access to my garden from that side as the gate is half way down the side and would affect me say getting my house rendered/painted and fixing guttering etc 

If your house like mine is right up to the boundary line on one side then to render or access the wall you would need to come onto his property. In these cases its best to maintain a good relationship as you may need to ask their permission if you need to do work on that side of the house.

Slinky

Our side extension is built right up to the boundary. Its footings go under the neighbours' garden. With your reasoning, our neighbours could demand we remove our footings. Neither we nor the neighbours owned the properties when this situation was agreed by previous occupants. They put up with it, same as we put up with them having trellis and a bird box fixed to the outside of our wall which were there before we bought our house.  In the overall great scheme of things, there are more things in life to worry about.