Nosey Neighbours and Gossiping

I currently own the biggest and most valuable home within the 3 streets around me (in terms of size, and house value). I paid the asking price as the home potential was perfect for my family. We have recently undertaken some DIY and professional jobs (new windows, doors, external painting, fencing etc) - None of which would really disturb anyone and everyone I do have any work done outside, I inform the nearby neighbours incase of loud machine work in the mornings. Recently I have had my fence changed (from 1.6m to 1.8m height) and have heard two of the neighbours on my side gossiping and bad mouthing the work, stating I have taken land, I have gone too high etc etc. I heard all this while sitting outside. I am inclined to just ignore and not worry but other part of me says to get on with everyone who lives close by. No one has said anything to myself and I doubt they would. Another part of me thinks they all need to find something interesting in their lives then worry about my work and a bloody fence. Any advice from anyone who has had what seems to be jealous neighbours or just nosey people?
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  • MovingForwards
    MovingForwards Posts: 17,138 Forumite
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    Ignore them and enjoy your home.
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  • sevenhills
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    Ignore them, but you could just drop in conversation that the new fence followed the same line as the old one and the 6' height is what is allowed in your area.
  • Rosa_Damascena
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    edited 13 June 2021 at 11:17PM
    People are bearing false witness but cannot say the same to your face? You're at an advantage now you know what your neighbours are really like.

    Home improvements raise everyone's house price on the street by upping the ceiling so I wouldn't feel guilty.

    Eta: are you sure they said taken land rather than taken light?
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  • hgd7
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    People are bearing false witness but cannot say the same to your face? You're at an advantage now you know what your neighbours are really like.

    Home improvements raise everyone's house price on the street by upping the ceiling so I wouldn't feel guilty.

    Eta: are you sure they said taken land rather than taken light?
    100% taken land even though it is on the same line as before. Funny how it was never a problem when the old fence was there. My other neighbour thinks it is just jealously. It annoys me but yes you are right. Least I know now and can just ignore them next time instead of making small talk
  • Davesnave
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    edited 14 June 2021 at 7:44AM
    hgd7 said:
     Any advice from anyone who has had what seems to be jealous neighbours or just nosey people?
    Yes, you will never please all of them, especially if you have noticeably more than they do. You'll gradually get to know your neighbours and discover who's worth getting to know better and who you should just acknowledge cheerily before going on quickly with whatever you are doing.
    Also bear in mind that recent restrictions haven't made it easy for new arrivals  to integrate into a community and existing residents may be more anxious and bored than usual.
  • hgd7
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    Why the presumption that this gossip stems from jealousy? They might just think you're an obnoxious person :p 
    Me? Surely not :wink:
    Hard to know when the most all ever say is hello and morning. Either way, each to their own. I decided I shouldn't waste any effort on them especially as no one wants to say anything directly to me so I will let them gossip on. 
  • Rosa_Damascena
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    hgd7 said:
    People are bearing false witness but cannot say the same to your face? You're at an advantage now you know what your neighbours are really like.

    Home improvements raise everyone's house price on the street by upping the ceiling so I wouldn't feel guilty.

    Eta: are you sure they said taken land rather than taken light?
    100% taken land even though it is on the same line as before. Funny how it was never a problem when the old fence was there. My other neighbour thinks it is just jealously. It annoys me but yes you are right. Least I know now and can just ignore them next time instead of making small talk
    Don't do that, turn the other cheek and kill them with kindness.

    Jeeps you are becoming increasingly loquacious of late...! I am enjoying your wisdom.
    No man is worth crawling on this earth.

    So much to read, so little time.
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