not married no children together selling house

sassyblue

andrew1111 said:

She cant afford the mortgage as she is now trying to get benefits, so she will really have to move out and ill move back in, but she cant afford to do that so i dont know what to do, ive paid so much and given so much and spoke with her a few times before finally calling it a day, she say with me and said were both not happy so lets call it day. I left and now feel like I am no longer financially responsible for her and her kids. That stops as soon as i leave, the kids have different dads so they need to step up and be responsible. It really isnt my problem. However i wont see them homeless so selling asap is the only option

Have you told her all this?  I concerned about what you’re saying tbh. Why will she have to 'move out and move back in', let her see if she can get benefits and afford to keep the house on first. 

Would the figures work if you had the apartment and it was a clean split that way? 

I get that you were happy to subsidise the children whilst you and their mum were together but their dads are paying so why do you think their dads should 'step up and be responsible' now?  

We are only getting your side of the story here but all too often we hear that whoever is posting paid for everything while the other one never worked, etc…. and yes these children are not yours but it’s equally sad to hear you categorically stating how you won’t pay for them. Please don’t let them hear any of this it would be very hurtful albeit I know they are not your responsibility.  How long have you been together, it looks like it’s a long while if you have two properties.

Are you sure all of this isn’t because you want the house? 

sammyjammy

sassyblue said:

andrew1111 said:

She cant afford the mortgage as she is now trying to get benefits, so she will really have to move out and ill move back in, but she cant afford to do that so i dont know what to do, ive paid so much and given so much and spoke with her a few times before finally calling it a day, she say with me and said were both not happy so lets call it day. I left and now feel like I am no longer financially responsible for her and her kids. That stops as soon as i leave, the kids have different dads so they need to step up and be responsible. It really isnt my problem. However i wont see them homeless so selling asap is the only option

Have you told her all this?  I concerned about what you’re saying tbh. Why will she have to 'move out and move back in', let her see if she can get benefits and afford to keep the house on first. 

Would the figures work if you had the apartment and it was a clean split that way? 

I get that you were happy to subsidise the children whilst you and their mum were together but their dads are paying so why do you think their dads should 'step up and be responsible' now?  

We are only getting your side of the story here but all too often we hear that whoever is posting paid for everything while the other one never worked, etc…. and yes these children are not yours but it’s equally sad to hear you categorically stating how you won’t pay for them. Please don’t let them hear any of this it would be very hurtful albeit I know they are not your responsibility.  How long have you been together, it looks like it’s a long while if you have two properties.

Are you sure all of this isn’t because you want the house? 

Have you actually read the OPs posts?  Thats not what he is saying at all so don't taint him with what "others" do.

If she doesn't work and is looking to claim benefits its very unlikely she can pay the mortgage unless its very small.  How much equity is there between the two properties?  Can you afford to buy her out for half of that if the one of the properties is sold?

sassyblue

sammyjammy said:

sassyblue said:

andrew1111 said:

She cant afford the mortgage as she is now trying to get benefits, so she will really have to move out and ill move back in, but she cant afford to do that so i dont know what to do, ive paid so much and given so much and spoke with her a few times before finally calling it a day, she say with me and said were both not happy so lets call it day. I left and now feel like I am no longer financially responsible for her and her kids. That stops as soon as i leave, the kids have different dads so they need to step up and be responsible. It really isnt my problem. However i wont see them homeless so selling asap is the only option

Have you told her all this?  I concerned about what you’re saying tbh. Why will she have to 'move out and move back in', let her see if she can get benefits and afford to keep the house on first. 

Would the figures work if you had the apartment and it was a clean split that way? 

I get that you were happy to subsidise the children whilst you and their mum were together but their dads are paying so why do you think their dads should 'step up and be responsible' now?  

We are only getting your side of the story here but all too often we hear that whoever is posting paid for everything while the other one never worked, etc…. and yes these children are not yours but it’s equally sad to hear you categorically stating how you won’t pay for them. Please don’t let them hear any of this it would be very hurtful albeit I know they are not your responsibility.  How long have you been together, it looks like it’s a long while if you have two properties.

Are you sure all of this isn’t because you want the house? 

Have you actually read the OPs posts?  Thats not what he is saying at all so don't taint him with what "others" do.

If she doesn't work and is looking to claim benefits its very unlikely she can pay the mortgage unless its very small.  How much equity is there between the two properties?  Can you afford to buy her out for half of that if the one of the properties is sold?

Ooh get you. I suggest you re-read the posts. What have I said that the OP has not?  He has exactly said those things. 

Since we don’t know any figures involved it’s just the OP's say so that she can’t afford the house….