ex-husband threatening to enter mutual property when I'm not there

RAS

Are you divorced? If so, what does the consent order say about the house?

Spendless

I'm guessing you were allowed to stay in the house because there were children of the marriage? Is the youngest of the children now an adult and no longer in education (A level or equivalent completed) Is this why the house now needs to go up for  sale?  If you provide more detail then people will be able to help. 

CookieMonster

mason's_mum said:

CookieMonster said:

He has a legal right to enter the property.

she knows this - it was in the original post - how is this helpful?

It was a response to her question: where do I stand?
All else about not paying and the dogs not liking men is irrelevant.

TBagpuss

I would suggest that offer to arrange a mutually convenient time for him to come - he's entitled to have access to the house, but unless you have been refusing to allow that then going direct to the option of attending when you are out, and with police is attendance, is excessive.

I'd make your proposal in writing - maybe suggest three alternative dates / times and ask him to pick ne or suggest another giving you at least 7 days notice (or however long you'd need to get time off work.

In the letter include that you have dogs and would be concerned about them getting out or the risk of his being bitten if he accesses the property without notice.

If he insists on coming at a time when you can't be there, can you arrange for a friend of family member to be present so they can keep an eye out and ensure that he doesn't do anything inappropriate like going through your personal items, or taking things from the house.

In some situations  what he's proposing might amount to harassment, but only if it's part of a wider pattern of harassment or threatening behaviour. 

sassyblue

gizmo111 said:

sassyblue said:

Men who have left the marital home can make mortgage payments in lieu of child support, has he been doing this.

I think we're getting half a story here...

In opening post...
He stopped paying anything towards the house on 17/03/2015 and I never had any child support from him at all.

Yes I read it, but after working in family law I know it’s a detail that gets misconstrued...

pinkshoes

moomiesmum said:

Hello wonderful people I have a genuine problem that I need advice with. I live in a house that I bought with my now ex-husband in 2011. We have to sell the property to pay the shared equity loan. The house is not ready to go on the market as yet , a long story, but now my ex is threatening to "make entry" to the house when I'm not there with the police to witness this. I know he has a legal right to enter but can he do this when I'm not there? He stopped paying anything towards the house on 17/03/2015 and I never had any child support from him at all.
Where do I stand? I would be at work when he said he will be coming to see the house. Please help as much as you can as I'm going out of my mind with worry as I have 2 dogs, 1 of which doesn't like men ( apart from my fiance) and the other one is getting on in age.
Many thanks in advance 

I'm assuming he wants to enter the house to get the ball rolling to get it sold?

As you live in the property, then he doesn't need to pay for the property as presumably he has his own living expenses elsewhere... If he stopped paying in 2015 but you divorced (?) in 2011, then that implies he paid for 4 years. This can be in lieu of child support. Would the amount he paid in 4 years be more than child support?

It would help if the OP came back and gave some more details.

Ultimately, the house needs selling.