ex-husband threatening to enter mutual property when I'm not there

moomiesmum

Hello wonderful people I have a genuine problem that I need advice with. I live in a house that I bought with my now ex-husband in 2011. We have to sell the property to pay the shared equity loan. The house is not ready to go on the market as yet , a long story, but now my ex is threatening to "make entry" to the house when I'm not there with the police to witness this. I know he has a legal right to enter but can he do this when I'm not there? He stopped paying anything towards the house on 17/03/2015 and I never had any child support from him at all.
Where do I stand? I would be at work when he said he will be coming to see the house. Please help as much as you can as I'm going out of my mind with worry as I have 2 dogs, 1 of which doesn't like men ( apart from my fiance) and the other one is getting on in age.
Many thanks in advance 

Retireby40

He has a share of the house and if on the deeds owns half of it. While you have been living in the house he has obviously had to rent somewhere else at a cost to him. That is a cost you haven't had to foot as you stayed in the martial home.

You've had long enough to get the house ready to sell. It appears you have no intention to sell it. He's probably fed up with the delays. Maybe he sees you and your fiance living in the house knowing you have no intention to leave the house.

Mojisola

moomiesmum said:

Please help as much as you can as I'm going out of my mind with worry as I have 2 dogs, 1 of which doesn't like men ( apart from my fiance) and the other one is getting on in age.

Agree a time with him and get someone else to look after the dogs that day.

sheramber

a long story, but now my ex is threatening to "make entry" to the house when I'm not there with the police to witness this
Has he tried to arrange a visit at a time when you are there but you have not agreed?

mason's_mum

What is your ex-husband wanting to do in the house? is he wanting to see what needs to be done in order to sell it? why is it not ready to be sold? have you been obstructive about getting the house sold? what are you actually worried he will do?
You have been benefitting from his equity in that time and he wont have been able to get another domestic mortgage while he has been named on yours so he is probably keen to sell, and if he thinks you are being obstructive that may be why he is getting the big guns (police) out.
Without knowing any more details it's hard to advise any further.
I would suggest you ask him what he is hoping to achieve from the visit, and arrange for the dogs to go to someone else for the day, while continuing to make your own arrangements for the house to be ready to sell.
I would also contact the CMS and make a claim for child support from now - he has been wrong not to support them up until now - and you probably should have sorted it out earlier, but you can do something about that today.

CookieMonster

He has a legal right to enter the property.

mason's_mum

CookieMonster said:

He has a legal right to enter the property.

she knows this - it was in the original post - how is this helpful?

gwynlas

You have had over 5 years to change the locks and could still do so.

sassyblue

Men who have left the marital home can make mortgage payments in lieu of child support, has he been doing this.

I think we're getting half a story here...

gizmo111

sassyblue said:

Men who have left the marital home can make mortgage payments in lieu of child support, has he been doing this.

I think we're getting half a story here...

In opening post...
He stopped paying anything towards the house on 17/03/2015 and I never had any child support from him at all.

AskAsk

he has the right to enter the property and even live there if he wanted to as it is still his house, and changing the locks as someone else had suggested earlier in the thread is no good as he could just call a locksmith round to open the door.