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How much should my partner contribute if he moves in with me
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If I am in your shoes I will not allow him to move in with me and ditch him completely in my life. Don't want to waste my time being with that kind of person, but that's just me.save for the rainy days0
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Will they be back?
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We've obviously given hjbeee the heeby-jeebies as they've not returned to this forum... but maybe they've worked out the simple solution; get married and thus, in effect claim rights to half the other half's assets...? Or maybe just threaten to!
Having said that, my partner let me move in as a scrounger with benefits when I was down on my luck, down in the mouth and pretty boracic following redundancy. I'd had a bit of capital which I sank into a BTL (like hjbeee's uvver 'alf), but that was just in my name and 'er indoors was OK with that. I probably chipped in to running costs when I eventually got back into work (tricky, as it was during the second or third to last recession), but we didn't run a spreadsheet; in fact, she bailed me out at a low time financially and emotionally. And I did let her daughter and baby live in the BTL, albeit I also benefited from the rent, direct from the Social, as she was a single parent.
Good job we didn't have interwebby advice Fora like this one then; you lot wouldda told her to boot me out...
But she didn't...
Fast forward 25-30 years. The relationship is still solid; in fact, cast iron. We eventually go married (but only after about 15-18 years- mainly to make it legal and simpler in terms of property and wills), cautiously, as we were both second time around. We both worked hard (professionally, and at the relationship) and now have a comfy retirement in a really lovely house plus a second BTL- all jointly owned of course. The grand daughter, no longer a baby, is really solid too, having inherited her nan's work ethic and integrity
So hopefully, hjbeee and the scrounger might enjoy the same future history - after all, they must see something in each other?1
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