Ex moving house
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Apparently my ex is moving house and hasn't said anything to me about it but surely I have a right to know purely for my children's sake, I obviously need to know where my children are and that they're safe, simply because I'm their dad, does anyone have any advice for me please??
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Because I don't know where she's moving to I don't know if it will affect their schooling.
There are no concrete contact arrangements at the moment, but I did start court proceedings in February which are ongoing, the first hearing wasn't until 13th of April and the next one isn't until July.
Also my ex doesn't speak to me at all about anything 🙄
a friend of ours divorced his wife and gave her the house as part of the settlement as he thought she was going to stay there with his son so he could visit his son easily. after the divorce, his wife sold the house and moved many miles away, which made it very difficult for him to see his son regularly as he had planned. they are no longer on speaking terms as he was furious that she had given him the impression that she would stay if he agreed to give her the house in the divorce.
he could not stop her moving so he had to move nearer to her new residence so that he could visit his son regularly, which she has agreed for him to do.
Are Cafcass involved - if so they can ask her what her plans are, if you think she is moving far away or abroad you can return the matter to court for a prohibited steps order.
Also, if you think that is is likely to be moving a long distance you could ask the court to make an interim Prohibited Steps order to prevent her from moving them from their current schools, or taking them out of the immediate area, without the court's permission, pending the court making a decision about contact arrangements.
A court can't order her not to move but can make orders relating to the children - so for example, if she sought to move a long distance away, it would be open to you to ask the court to make orders that the children lived with you so that they could continue to attend the current schools, stay in an areas where they have existing links etc, and a court can decide whether that would be better than staying with mum but moving away. The could would also take into account her reasons for moving - if she has genuine reasons for moving (e.g. being closer to extended family for support, changing to a better job,) than if it appears that her main motive is to make it harder for the children to spend time with their father.