Post death help

AccurateIce

tooldle said:

I have every sympathy with you, however in my opinion there is a great deal of difference between being aware of how things may progress and actually dealing with what results from that progression. To give a real life example. My mum was up at 3am on Saturday morning trying to break open the front door as she believed her father was outside waiting to collect her. Mum is normally quite calm and the behaviour was due to a UTI. Mum was very agitated and would not be distracted from her wish to get out. She set the fire alarm off multiple times through the morning. GP prescribed temazepan(?) and three doses were given through the day. It was gone 7pm before she started to take on board the reassurances being given to her and allowed herself to be taken up to her room I've never seen her that agitated and incoherent/paranoid. Sixteen hours straight, with a whole team of staff trying different approaches. As much as i love my mum, i wouldn't put my own family through this. The staff involved were drained, and they have the skills and experience.

I appreciate all the comments regarding the future but currently MIL is very manageable. Child who has moved in has experience of Dementia care(I was unaware of this)  and if/when things become too much then a care home would be the next step. Each dementia case is different, and the fact the MIL becomes agitated when not in familiar surroundings is the reason they are  keeping her in her own home for as long as possible. 

gettingtheresometime said:

Just my 2 pennies worth - if the house will need an extension, which will be an extension to an extension, have you considered the hassle of getting planning permission ? Are there likely to be objections?

The new extension will need planning permission but after speaking with the architect they envisage no issue with planning permission due to the size and orientation of the extension.