Dating & gifts

mutley74

jennystarpepper said:

What a nice thing to do.  Lucky person.

I love a bunch of flowers,  or a simple £1 bunch of daffs.  As @pinkshoes has said ..... Gifts should be sporadic and spontaneous.  Just taking an interest in things they like is good and it's free!  I like a walk on the beach or feeding the ducks in the park, things like this can be better than a gift. 

If you like this person, and it sounds like you do.... don't over do things too early on, i'm sure you won't.  

Thanks for your kind words Jennystarpepper. 
I think we both do like each other, we got to know each quite well before meeting due to the lockdowns. It feels like a fairytale since! 
I like the idea of feeding ducks in the park! We did a beach walk last week! 

barbiedoll

On our second date, my husband gave me a beautifully wrapped box, with a bow and gift tag attached. I got a bit nervous, thinking that it was too soon for presents, especially expensive-looking ones.

Inside was a box of Jaffa cakes. I'd told him a story on our first date (involving several police officers and Jaffa cakes "stolen" from my desk at work...) and he bought me a box as he knew they were my favourites. It's definitely the thought that counts!

AskAsk

you sound like a very thoughtful man OP!  i am sure any woman would appreciate gifts, certainly flowers.  but if you met her a few times a week, she could end up with a florist, lol 

you give her what you feel like giving her and i am sure she will appreciate it.  if you see her often in the future and giving her a gift every time you see her may look a bit too much, then you could treat her to a nice meal or a nice day out somewhere instead of the little gifts.

Pollycat

Whilst I do understand the thoughtfulness behind your question, I think I'd feel uncomfortable if someone I was dating bought me gifts every time we met.

I'd find it a bit overwhelming, tbh.

And you wouldn't want her to feel that she needed to reciprocate your generosity, especially if she doesn't have the same disposable income as you do.

Good luck with your relationship.

silvercar

Spontaneity is best and certainly don’t go down the road of expecting or giving gifts each time you get together, that sounds exhausting.

When OH and I were dating, he was cooking dinner and I was rushing from work to his place, empty handed. Between station and his flat I walked past an off-licence and on impulse bought a bottle of champagne. He proposed and we’ve been married 34 years! 

mutley74

AskAsk said:

you sound like a very thoughtful man OP!  i am sure any woman would appreciate gifts, certainly flowers.  but if you met her a few times a week, she could end up with a florist, lol 

you give her what you feel like giving her and i am sure she will appreciate it.  if you see her often in the future and giving her a gift every time you see her may look a bit too much, then you could treat her to a nice meal or a nice day out somewhere instead of the little gifts.

Thanks. I would not be buying flowers weekly! We had a day out together, and kept it quite simple. 
 I probably tone it down to small simple things, something i made homemade. and keep flowers to a bit later.