How much to put in for someone's leaving collection?

TallDaisy

Someone is leaving my work and I'm not particularly close to them, all collections are now done on Paypal so you can see how much everyone has put in. Everyone has pur £10. I don't mind putting in a £5 but don't want to be judged as this guy is seen as the nice guy that everyone likes but I've not spoken much to him...I feel like noone would put £10 in for me either. I don't know whether to just say to the gorl organising that my Paypal is broke & transfer her £5, suck it up and pay £5 on Paypal or just pay the £10...am I just being stingy? Trying so hard to save at the moment.

[Deleted User]

If you only want to give £5, give £5. 

I wouldn't pretend that 'Paypal is broke' as it clearly isn't.

74jax

I would just put in £5 and not give it a second thought.
I only used to put in £2 in envelope collections (even if there was notes in).
Unless it's a collection of £10 each, surely it's what you want to give?

Edited as I've just read you saving. Do you want to put in? My work was very relaxed and you either could or not, everyone was asked. If you did your name went on the card, if you didn't then it didn't. It wasn't really a big deal. The boss only put on for who he liked 😂, some never did and some just put in for those in their team. 

TallDaisy

I actually don't mind contributing as I usually have given people £5, there is a couple of people who like me haven't really spoke much and they have given £10. £5 is usually standard so maybe I'm just over thinking too much about it, there's been other people I've been much closer to who have left who I have also given the standard £5, and only given £10 to people I've been really close to.

TBagpuss

I suspect other people have had a similar thought to you and have felt pressured to give £10 as they saw others do so. If you pay £5 you may then see that others who haven't given yet give £5 too. 
Give what you are comfortable with and afford, and of you have collections regularly then maybe suggest to whoever organises them that they look at ways to allow people to do so without seeing everyone's contribution, as it can make people uncomfortable or under pressure. 

moneysavinghero

If you are not close put in £0. Unless anyone is specifically looking for your name they probably wont even notice that you have not donated.

All those £10's add up, especially if you work for a larger company and it's a constant stream of 'its x birthday, y is leaving, z is getting married'. If you hardly know the person don't feel pressured into giving them money

Martin_the_Unjust

Start a trend, bung ‘em 50p


(unless of course you are thinking of leaving soon 😉)

TallDaisy

My company is pretty small so makes it harder so you can see everyones names someone's just given £20 and is going to make anything I give look small anyway -_-

Walker1

You’re definitely over thinking this. i never put in for things like this unless it’s someone I get on with well. 

I don’t really get why people feel the need to do it on the first place.

Sea_Shell

It shouldn't be about what you can or can't afford, it should solely be about how well you knew them and how closely you worked together.  That's assuming you even liked them!!

I hate when things start to feel like compulsory obligations, and that use of PayPal (unless you can donate anonymously) would have had me digging my heels in to give nothing to the pot!!

I would have bought them a little something directly from myself instead, if I wished.

theoretica

Or put 4.93 and most people will be more distracted by why the odd number to think about the amount.