Vendors won’t exchange

Thrugelmir

loosingmymind said:

Forums....there’s always one. 

I don’t believe for a single second that when you’ve really cared about something and someone has messed you around, that you haven’t been personally offended. 

Or maybe you’re the messiah. 

How have you been offended?  Understandably stressed perhaps. Which is nothing compared to the couple selling.  Who also have the complexities of finding new homes, settling finances etc. When you divorce one day you may have a different perspective on the situation from the other side.

AnotherJoe

Op, start looking elsewhere this weekend. Really looking, in earnest. This purchase may never happen.
Give them an ultimatum for an exchange date,  one - two weeks out.  
Tell the EA you don't believe they will be selling soon enough so whilst your offer is still there you have given up and are now looking elsewhere, irrespective of the deadline. 

The £5k a week reduction suggested is a possibility but it's difficult it might cause them to pull out on principle, OTOH if they do pull out they probably weren't that able to come to a conclusion anyway so on balance maybe it's a good strategy. 

loosingmymind

Thrugelmir said:

loosingmymind said:

Forums....there’s always one. 

I don’t believe for a single second that when you’ve really cared about something and someone has messed you around, that you haven’t been personally offended. 

Or maybe you’re the messiah. 

How have you been offended?  Understandably stressed perhaps. Which is nothing compared to the couple selling.  Who also have the complexities of finding new homes, settling finances etc. When you divorce one day you may have a different perspective on the situation from the other side.

Thanks oracle. It’s nice that you have a hobby.

NameUnavailable

It's not unknown for the threat of the sale of a property to be used as a 'test' of the relationship. Get to the brink of selling - and therefore separating - to bring the couple back to giving it another go.

I would be looking for another property and doing my best to keep my buyer on board.

Tiglet2

One potential problem with divorcing couples is that one wants to sell and the other does not.  The person who doesn't want to sell can drag their feet to such an extent, that potential purchasers give up and look for something else. Perhaps that is what is happening here.

It is normal for a consent order to be drawn up by the court which sets out the percentage split, but this does mean that the conveyancing solicitors have to liaise with the matrimonial solicitor, therefore a further third party to the transaction and possible delays.

loosingmymind

NameUnavailable said:

It's not unknown for the threat of the sale of a property to be used as a 'test' of the relationship. Get to the brink of selling - and therefore separating - to bring the couple back to giving it another go.

I would be looking for another property and doing my best to keep my buyer on board.

Thanks. This too is a possibility. It’s excruciating having so much invested in something coming off and being at the whim of two strangers relationship. 

That is exactly what we’re doing at the minute but it’s a struggle to string our buyers along when we feel like the same is being done to us. I wouldn’t wish these feelings of disappointment on anyone.

loosingmymind

Tiglet2 said:

One potential problem with divorcing couples is that one wants to sell and the other does not.  The person who doesn't want to sell can drag their feet to such an extent, that potential purchasers give up and look for something else. Perhaps that is what is happening here.

It is normal for a consent order to be drawn up by the court which sets out the percentage split, but this does mean that the conveyancing solicitors have to liaise with the matrimonial solicitor, therefore a further third party to the transaction and possible delays.

Thanks. This is helpful. It does feel like this is what’s happening here. 

Thrugelmir

loosingmymind said:

Thrugelmir said:

loosingmymind said:

Forums....there’s always one. 

I don’t believe for a single second that when you’ve really cared about something and someone has messed you around, that you haven’t been personally offended. 

Or maybe you’re the messiah. 

How have you been offended?  Understandably stressed perhaps. Which is nothing compared to the couple selling.  Who also have the complexities of finding new homes, settling finances etc. When you divorce one day you may have a different perspective on the situation from the other side.

Thanks oracle. It’s nice that you have a hobby.

What goes around comes around eventually. 

loosingmymind

Thrugelmir said:

loosingmymind said:

Thrugelmir said:

loosingmymind said:

Forums....there’s always one. 

I don’t believe for a single second that when you’ve really cared about something and someone has messed you around, that you haven’t been personally offended. 

Or maybe you’re the messiah. 

How have you been offended?  Understandably stressed perhaps. Which is nothing compared to the couple selling.  Who also have the complexities of finding new homes, settling finances etc. When you divorce one day you may have a different perspective on the situation from the other side.

Thanks oracle. It’s nice that you have a hobby.

What goes around comes around eventually. 

No I mean it. I can see you’ve been posting pearls of contrarian wisdom several times an hour, every hour, from 9 until 11 without a break. You’re clearly really into it and that’s nice. 

Rudi1990

loosingmymind said:

Thrugelmir said:

loosingmymind said:

Thrugelmir said:

loosingmymind said:

Forums....there’s always one. 

I don’t believe for a single second that when you’ve really cared about something and someone has messed you around, that you haven’t been personally offended. 

Or maybe you’re the messiah. 

How have you been offended?  Understandably stressed perhaps. Which is nothing compared to the couple selling.  Who also have the complexities of finding new homes, settling finances etc. When you divorce one day you may have a different perspective on the situation from the other side.

Thanks oracle. It’s nice that you have a hobby.

What goes around comes around eventually. 

No I mean it. I can see you’ve been posting pearls of contrarian wisdom several times an hour, every hour, from 9 until 11 without a break. You’re clearly really into it and that’s nice. 

@losingmymind sorry, I don’t have any helpful suggestions here, I’m just in the process of buying my first home, however I can see you are new to the forum- you will find the same small group of self righteous idiots who seem to have absolutely sod all better to do than trawl these pages looking for ways to put people down 🤬 I see you have identified one already 😂 the majority of members are really nice