Divorce/separation: wife refusing any money..?

Four_Oaks_Bookworm

...and re the comment about where she will live, I asked her the same question...!   Her car is actually a 'van' so she says she'll use that, the alternative is her mother, see above for why that's currently not on the table.  It's just a bit ludicrous really...

Sea_Shell

Is there a risk that she could scupper your sale?

Will you both have to sign paperwork for the sale to complete?

Four_Oaks_Bookworm

No risk that she'll scupper the sale, we both wanted to move anyway

Sea_Shell

Four_Oaks_Bookworm said:

No risk that she'll scupper the sale, we both wanted to move anyway

It's just that she doesn't seem to be thinking rationally at the moment.   

It might sink in, at the last moment, that she has nowhere to go, and no money!

theoretica

I would definitely hold off on giving money to the teenagers - I wonder about a quiet word to get your conveyancing solicitor to see about half the money going to each of you 'as standard' and that way it might seem more like her money.

justworriedabit

OP
IMHO she may be holding something back from you and I don't mean she is going to trip you up but a guilty secret, potentially. But never make assumptions without solid evidence as that is not good for anyone

Does she seem depressed etc as situations like this can make at least one party. feel desperate and actions they take are not always sensible ones.

Does she have a best friend/etc that you know she is close to that may or may not confirm how she feels and everything is ok as far as it can be in this situation.?

Check as far as possible she is ok and then after that you have to accept her wishes.

BrassicWoman

The house was up for sale and then soon after, quite recently, a divorce is on the cards. 

Sounds like she's been blindsided. Does she want this divorce?

Seeing a mediator may help.

Yes, your pensions pots are both in the mix.

MovingForwards

What is your ex going to do for money as £2k a year won't cover much. If she thinks she can claim benefits that won't happen as she can't reject a financial settlement from a divorce; she will be treated as receiving it and have no entitlement to benefits.

As a side note, I walked away from my marriage with nothing but debt and less than £750 I had managed to save. However I knew with my employment history I could walk into a job, and did get offered one the following day after relocating, I had also paid 1 months rent and bills in a shared property; wasn't pleasant as one flat mate was disgusting, but that's one for another day.

Had I gone for half of everything, him likewise with my small pensions, all of it would have fallen to me to deal with. I would have been debt free sooner but my ex was a lot older than me and didn't have time to rebuild his life before retiring, whereas I had nearly 30 years.

DollyDawson

Is she angry with you for some reason?  Cutting her nose off to spite her face?

sassyblue

Is the house/mortgage in joint names? if so, once the property is sold your solicitor will NOT distribute any net sale proceeds without there being an agreement on how to distribute them between you both in place.

you need to inform your solicitor handling the sale ASAP of the situation, they can also help you with a divorce (assuming they also have a family lawyer at their firm too) and handle the sale simultaneously.  However, bear in mind your property sale could go through a long time before a divorce and financial settlement is finalised now....

it may be that with net sale proceeds of £150k you could draw down some of the net sale proceeds pending an agreement (should your wife agree to this) but this situation can really make things difficult for you moving forward - how will you purchase another property without all the necessary funds?