50/50 Care - Benefits, maintenance etc

pinkshoes

How old is the child?

Whatever you and she WANTS, just make sure you consider what is best for the child. I am a teacher and have spend hours listening to the woes of kids that have parents that treat them more like an object they have possession over than a human, and 50/50 can become very complicated in terms of every day life.

A consistent routine is what a child needs.

Why not you have the child every other weekend, then say Monday/Tuesday/Wednesday during the week and her?  (so she does Monday drop off at school then Wednesday collection from school, and you collect Monday after school and take responsibility until drop off on Wednesday. Then split school holidays 50/50? That would give you 2 days one week and 4 days the next which isn't quite 50/50 but would make it simple. 

wannabe_a_saver

Pinkman78 said:

I want 50/50 but she is refusing and wants alternate weekends plus an overnight in the week. 

Honestly that seems sensible to start off with.  His current home feels like his home, and you should be trying to make the transition as easy as possible for him not trying to 'get even' with your wife. 

How old is your son?  Who has been the main carer up to this point in his life?  Who has done the bulk of the 'work' each day?

burlingtonfl6

wannabe_a_saver said:

Pinkman78 said:

I want 50/50 but she is refusing and wants alternate weekends plus an overnight in the week. 

Honestly that seems sensible to start off with.  His current home feels like his home, and you should be trying to make the transition as easy as possible for him not trying to 'get even' with your wife. 

How old is your son?  Who has been the main carer up to this point in his life?  Who has done the bulk of the 'work' each day?

If she thinks alternate weekends and a night in the week is acceptable then she should have him those times.
( We all know she won't though )
What's best for any child is to have as much time with both parents (as long as they are good parents) as possible.
I'd even argue that for a young boy it could be more beneficial. The biggest reason why young men are currently lost is because they didn't have a father in their life.
It won't be a popular opinion on her but a mother can not replace the role of the father. 

TBagpuss

Do you and your wife both work outside the home? If so, do you both work full time? 
Who has been the main carer up until now? 
Where will you be living if you move out, - e.g. how close to the current house, school etc, how large a house compared to the family home? 
If you are not able to agree, then ultimately either of you an apply to the court for a Child Arrangements Order. The Court has to decide what is in your son's best interests , taking into account a range of factors (known as the welfare checklist) . The aim is not to be fair to you and your ex, but to do what is best for your son.

Obviously his includes a court having to think about the practicalities - for instance, whether 50/50 shared care is practical, taking into account the distance between your homes, and between each of your homes and his school, how well the two of you are able to cooperate and communicate to be able to work together to make it work smoothly, how it would work in practice fitting around the hours you each work, how suitable each of your accommodations are for him, and so forth. The court also has to consider the impact on him of changes in his situation.

Routine is important for children's, and for a shared care arrangement to work, it does need both parents to be able to work together. depending on his age, your son's own wishes are also a factor to consider. The older he is, the greater weight is given to what he wants.