Post-Move Blues

Sotts

AnotherJoe said:

Sotts said:

Is there such a thing.  In December we decided to stop renting and buy our own place.   We had the usual mortgage stress, searches stress, waiting for offer stress, waiting to exchange, completion stress, moving out stress, moving in stress etc.  We've been in our new flat for 2 weeks now, bought all our furniture, flat-pack heaven, decorated and loving it here.  Except I feel so flat !!   Is this a normal thing after the emotional rollercoaster?  

Could be, I used to get that at work after working on a major project, when it ended I felt flat for a while.

House move is not just a  major project but also a more personal one than work.

I'm in the early stages of moving in, still got boxes to unpack, so my flat moment will be in a couple of weeks i guess.

I'm impressed you got it all done in two weeks ! Unpacked, decorated, flat packed.  

maybe I should have stretched it out a bit.  Im just a bit impatient to have everything done.  But I mean, what else is there to do in lockdown :-):smile:

Sotts

I'm so glad this is normal.  I was starting to worry that I was being ungrateful for everything I have :-) 

GixerKate

I know what you mean, we've recently moved into a new build and the whole process took over 10 months and was hell.  Last month I found myself standing in the living room not sure what to do!  I was so used to not having enough time for anything, always chasing someone/something up, always on that stress roller coaster to.....nothing.  Weird feeling!

Very happy to be in the new house though

RelievedSheff

Sotts said:

greatcrested said:

Quite common, especially if the property is still a bit of a mess.

And typically,once the previous owners pictures and furniture are gone, the walls and carpets never look quite the same- holes in walls, marks on carpet/dirty patches etc

In time, and with some fresh paint and new stuff, it will seem like home.

thank you :-)  We've moved into a brand new property so nothing needs doing but I guess what everyone says is right.  My friend said it's like when you get married.  All the stress of wedding planning 

Nothing needs doing yet!!   

We moved into a new build almost two years ago now (where has that time gone) and believe me there is more work than you think to make your out of the box house a home.

You will soon find things to do on the house that will keep you occupied again.

Drawingaline

Totally! We moved a the end of Jan and while I spent a good 10 days painting and arranging furniture we are stuck until lockdown ends. I want to browse in shops looking at curtains, or go to ike@ and plan where things can go. We have done what we can with online purchases, but anything major now is either our of our reach financially right now (saving to change kitchen and bathroom, both fully functioning but dated and not to our taste) or are things we need to see in person.

About two weeks after we.moved I just felt so low, not being able to even have family over to show around has also impacted. 

Sotts

Drawingaline said:

Totally! We moved a the end of Jan and while I spent a good 10 days painting and arranging furniture we are stuck until lockdown ends. I want to browse in shops looking at curtains, or go to ike@ and plan where things can go. We have done what we can with online purchases, but anything major now is either our of our reach financially right now (saving to change kitchen and bathroom, both fully functioning but dated and not to our taste) or are things we need to see in person.

About two weeks after we.moved I just felt so low, not being able to even have family over to show around has also impacted. 

I completely understand that.   I ordered loads of fabric swatches before we moved so I could order in furniture, blinds etc.   I'm really happy with how it's looking.  and now I can see "post move blues" is a real thing, I've actually woken up much happier today

sgun

Sotts said:

thank you :-)  We've moved into a brand new property so nothing needs doing but I guess what everyone says is right.  My friend said it's like when you get married.  All the stress of wedding planning 

So true - we planned our wedding in around 3 weeks and went off to Gretna Green just the two of us. Best day of my life and no post wedding blues. Buying our new house - months of pain and stress, I still sometimes feel a bit "resentful" towards the house two years later even though I love living here. I guess it's a coping strategy for getting over an ordeal!

Murphybear

Moving house is generally considered to be one of life’s stressful events.  

MovingForwards

For me there was a strange feeling of standing in a room and thinking "what do I do with myself now".

There was the excitement of saving to get the money together, looking for potential properties, packing, moving, unpacking, arranging everything, spending months painting one room, building savings back up, doing the garden, planning the rest of the property, planning retirement and then suddenly nothing. I'd worked everything out and planned everything I wanted to do. 

So I set about enjoying my home more than I already was, being answerable to myself and picking up hobbies I had done for ages. I still walk room to room thinking "mine, mine, mine" like the seagulls from Finding Nemo and smiling.

Edit to add - this was in January, many months after moving.

anteguardian

MovingForwards said:

For me there was a strange feeling of standing in a room and thinking "what do I do with myself now".

There was the excitement of saving to get the money together, looking for potential properties, packing, moving, unpacking, arranging everything, spending months painting one room, building savings back up, doing the garden, planning the rest of the property, planning retirement and then suddenly nothing. I'd worked everything out and planned everything I wanted to do. 

So I set about enjoying my home more than I already was, being answerable to myself and picking up hobbies I had done for ages. I still walk room to room thinking "mine, mine, mine" like the seagulls from Finding Nemo and smiling.

Edit to add - this was in January, many months after moving.

I love your link to finding nemo and the seagulls because that is exactly what I do! 
“mine, mine, mine” 😂

I do my own art prints for my house and whenever people ask about them I always think of that scene!