Post-Move Blues

Sotts

Is there such a thing.  In December we decided to stop renting and buy our own place.   We had the usual mortgage stress, searches stress, waiting for offer stress, waiting to exchange, completion stress, moving out stress, moving in stress etc.  We've been in our new flat for 2 weeks now, bought all our furniture, flat-pack heaven, decorated and loving it here.  Except I feel so flat !!   Is this a normal thing after the emotional rollercoaster?  

princeofpounds

It's not uncommon. I suspect it's even more common during lockdown when other activities in your life are curtailed. Give yourself a chance and let some time pass without worrying about it too much, if you can.

greatcrested

Quite common, especially if the property is still a bit of a mess.

And typically,once the previous owners pictures and furniture are gone, the walls and carpets never look quite the same- holes in walls, marks on carpet/dirty patches etc

In time, and with some fresh paint and new stuff, it will seem like home.

moneysavinghero

Yeah its quite normal.

youth_leader

I think it's the affect of the adrenalin leaving our bodies, in combination with lockdown.  I felt like that when I sold and moved into a rental, now my new purchase is happening soon and I feel flat about that too.    Hope you feel brighter soon.

Scotbot

I hate the house I live in, it was a head purchase and I have never liked it. Financially I know it makes sense but I don't like it. It is not the first house I have disliked either. 

AnotherJoe

Sotts said:

Is there such a thing.  In December we decided to stop renting and buy our own place.   We had the usual mortgage stress, searches stress, waiting for offer stress, waiting to exchange, completion stress, moving out stress, moving in stress etc.  We've been in our new flat for 2 weeks now, bought all our furniture, flat-pack heaven, decorated and loving it here.  Except I feel so flat !!   Is this a normal thing after the emotional rollercoaster?  

Could be, I used to get that at work after working on a major project, when it ended I felt flat for a while.

House move is not just a  major project but also a more personal one than work.

I'm in the early stages of moving in, still got boxes to unpack, so my flat moment will be in a couple of weeks i guess.

I'm impressed you got it all done in two weeks ! Unpacked, decorated, flat packed. 

UnderOffer

Yes perfectly normal in my experience. Takes me at least 12 months to fall in love all again with the home that I saw all that time ago at the viewing. Once you are settled the blues will leave. 

Mahsroh

I think this is normal for a lot of big events we go through in life. House moves, weddings, having a baby.

Moving house (from viewing properties and applying for mortgages right the way through to unpacking boxes) is time consuming. For those few months it can consume your life. It's all you think about, it's all you and your partner talk about in the evenings. There is the anticipation to actually move, all the things you want to do with your new house, the furniture you want to buy..... then once you've done all that stuff and living there is the "norm", it leaves a big hole. 

Was the same for us (my wife in particular) after we got married. We had months of planning the wedding and Honeymoon. We had the Wedding. Went on the honeymoon 36hrs later.... Got back from the honeymoon two weeks later and all of sudden we had nothing to look forward to, and nothing to plan for, suddenly everything feels so flat....... So we started looking at houses a couple of weeks later!! 

oniongirl

Definitely normal! It occupies your thoughts so much whilst it's happening, causes no end of grief, you've spent upwards of 3 months looking forward to it and then.... done. All that build up and actually you're just living in another place. AND you can't even invite everyone over to coo over it. 

Sotts

greatcrested said:

Quite common, especially if the property is still a bit of a mess.

And typically,once the previous owners pictures and furniture are gone, the walls and carpets never look quite the same- holes in walls, marks on carpet/dirty patches etc

In time, and with some fresh paint and new stuff, it will seem like home.

thank you :-)  We've moved into a brand new property so nothing needs doing but I guess what everyone says is right.  My friend said it's like when you get married.  All the stress of wedding planning