Mortgage/Ex/Help Please

davilown

Angela_D_3 said:

davilown said:

Angela_D_3 said:

Comes down yo what kind of home/life do you wsnt your children to have. 

Assuming they are yours.  

I don't mean to upset you but with the timing, are you absolutely sure that the new baby is yours?

My ex has spent £20,000 trying to evict his children from their home.  You think i wont show them the paperwork when they are adults.  £20,000 ciuld have bought a lot of nice days out,  holidays with daddy etc 

Surely that's just being vindictive and will only hurt your children further just for your gain? There's always 2 sides to every story

No whats hurting the children was ex trying to sell the house from under them for £50,000 less than it eventually sold for. 

Amazing how when a woman wont stand for any !!!!!! that’s vindictive and only hurts the kids eh ... where as having to leave their home would be a picnic.  

I questioned whether that would be vindictive - you omitted significant detail

Angela_D_3

SaintJudy said:

Angela_D_3 said:

My ex has spent £20,000 trying to evict his children from their home.  You think i wont show them the paperwork when they are adults.  £20,000 ciuld have bought a lot of nice days out,  holidays with daddy etc 

Speaking as someone who has been the child in this situation, please don't do this. 

By the time they reach adulthood ill probably be over it... but sure you can take the point. 

Legally being right and doing what right for the children are often very different matters 

Angela_D_3

davilown said:

Angela_D_3 said:

davilown said:

Angela_D_3 said:

Comes down yo what kind of home/life do you wsnt your children to have. 

Assuming they are yours.  

I don't mean to upset you but with the timing, are you absolutely sure that the new baby is yours?

My ex has spent £20,000 trying to evict his children from their home.  You think i wont show them the paperwork when they are adults.  £20,000 ciuld have bought a lot of nice days out,  holidays with daddy etc 

Surely that's just being vindictive and will only hurt your children further just for your gain? There's always 2 sides to every story

No whats hurting the children was ex trying to sell the house from under them for £50,000 less than it eventually sold for. 

Amazing how when a woman wont stand for any !!!!!! that’s vindictive and only hurts the kids eh ... where as having to leave their home would be a picnic.  

I questioned whether that would be vindictive - you omitted significant detail

My experience is that the kids dont give a toss whos right and whos wrong they just want their lives to continue as uninterrupted as possible 

princeofpounds

Hi OP. You may find that the 'marriage and relationships' boards on this forum are a better bet for you on this one; that's where most of the child-support related advice is discussed.

As pointed out previously, you may be looking at applying for an Order for Sale if your ex is not co-operative. The courts may consider the position of the children in this process, but they may also consider your ability to support an independent life. Whilst courts will often seek to maintain children in their family home, or in other suitable accommodation, that may not mean totally free accommodation for the ex in perpetuity.

You will also have some child support obligations and it's often better to get the whole arrangement formalised, especially when the parents are not able to work together properly.