ideas for a special present

Sallys_Savings

I'm deeply sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you.

I think all the ideas that have been posted are lovely and I'm sure he'd appreciate.

I lost my mother 6 years ago two weeks ago and was (still am) devastated.

It will certainly be really "strange" this christmas without your father but as you know he would want your children to have a great christmas.
But please remember you need time to grieve too. I found that I was thinking about everyone else..my dad, siblings and my own children that I didnt grieve properly for at least 6 months after our loss.

Have a great christmas remembering your father in the way that he would want you to .
Remember to live for him....enjoying every moment of your own life is the best legacy he could leave you.

Jo_R_2

I know it's not a present exactly but when my grandma died, my grandad wanted her ashes scattered in a National Trust park we all used to visit together where we had some great fun times (lovely childhood memories.) So the family took a trip there to soak up the atmosphere and the views and scatter her ashes, and I keep meaning to get some kind of keepsake from there - which is why I think a tree or some kind of plant would be a lovely idea in this sort of theme.

Look after yourself as well as looking after everyone else :grouphug:

Secret1234

I'm so sorry, it must be so hard for you all. If you go to snapfish or other online photo sites you can make photo books which you can add comments too. Think it will be a lovely keepsake for you and your brother xxx

ruby6kids

I am so sorry for your loss, cannot suggest anything that has not been suggested before.

just try to keep focussed and if possible ask your brother what he wants to keep for himself out of all your dad's personal things.

Savvy_Sue

can I just say that it's OK to cry as well as having a good time. I don't know how old your children are, probably not very old if you are expecting another, but I think it's OK to say that there will be times when you are sad because of their grandad dying, even though you are trying to all be happy at Christmas. And that grandma and uncle will also be sad, and they may feel sad themselves, and that's OK, it's OK for any of us to say how we're feeling and even have a little cry. But that grandad won't mind us being happy, and he'll understand if we're sad.

I think it's when we bottle everything up that and hide how we're feeling for everyone else's sake that we make ourselves ill later.

Have a box of tissues handy at all times ...

scooper

hi thanks to you all

i cannot see your thanks buttons so cant do it persnally

all your ideas and advice is really lovely thankyou