Message for everyone who is now not able to see loved ones over Christmas 22 December 2020 at 8:54AM in Compers chat corner 8 replies 231 views

Blulu

I hope it will help, just a little, to think of what is probably the only silver lining to the awful cloud you are enduring.

The silver lining is this: the sacrifice you are making is saving lives. I’ll explain…

Clearly, if you met up with your loved one/s, the odds are that you and they would be fine. However, consider the thousands of others who are making a similar sacrifice. All of you together form a group, and some of you in that group would test positive for the virus. As a group, if you ignored the guidelines, the virus would spread to more people, and would ultimately cost lives.

Therefore, by sacrificing meeting up with your loved ones over Christmas, you are part of a group which, as a whole, is saving lives.

I hope it will help, just a little, to focus on this aspect and to know that by sacrificing spending Christmas with your loved ones you are saving others from the loss of their loved ones.

Blu XXX

Misslayed

It may help to 'rebrand' this Christmas as 'our first in our own home', a 'day just for me/us' 'I can do/eat/watch exactly what I want'. 

Maybe take time to plan your postponed celebrations (we're going to have a Midsummer Christmas). 

If you do Twitter, Sarah Millican and others are hosting virtual get togethers. 

We can also use this thread to chat, thanks @Blulu

Misslayed

Here's a reindog to brighten your day!

libra10

Thanks Blulu and Misslayed, it's great to see your inspiring messages.
Many people are focusing on the negative side, hopefully, when enough people have had the chance to be vaccinated, we will be able to return to how things were before.
Merry Christmas everyone!

grannybiker

Wise words...
Turning the whole thing on its head to be a positive "Me/ 2 of Us" day is a great idea too, unless the person you're placating has just lived through months of such days...
It's lovely to see so many making the best of a rubbishy situation, but equally, it's sad to see so many flouting the guidelines because it's "Just us and my sister's family" etc.  (Guess these people think the same about parking in disabled bays or on the zig-zags outside schools when they'll 'Just' be a few minutes )
Can I just add a plea not to add, "We can always celebrate in the summer / next year."  I'm sure this year has rammed it home that not every tomorrow is guaranteed. For those with unwell or aging relatives, or living with their own or other loved ones' life-limiting health issues, such reassurances aren't as helpful as their kind speaker intends.
Wishing you all the best of the festive season, (Ha, another positive - no arguing over who gets the last of the pigs in blankets!) and may 2021 be your best year ever. 
xx

celestineprop

I too took it as a positive, I remained at home on my own, phoned my elderly parents, cooked a meal for one in 45 minutes, caught up with friends online, watched some TV, and even cleaned the kitchen. It was peaceful and strangely memorable, I took the time to put things in order and reflect. I really enjoyed it. 
We'll all do the oldfashioned Christmas  again someday

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celestineprop said:

We'll all do the oldfashioned Christmas  again someday

You just did it.

Torry_Quine

celestineprop said:

I too took it as a positive, I remained at home on my own, phoned my elderly parents, cooked a meal for one in 45 minutes, caught up with friends online, watched some TV, and even cleaned the kitchen. It was peaceful and strangely memorable, I took the time to put things in order and reflect. I really enjoyed it. 
We'll all do the oldfashioned Christmas  again someday

For many being on our own is the normal Christmas. 

WeAreGhosts

My neighbours had a normal Christmas (we're tier 3), their 3 adult children came and stayed over from wherever they live. Someone in the street must have been as vexed as I was, because the police turned up on Christmas Eve! Don't know what was said/done, but they were in the house a while.