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Care home fees - can we legitimately dispose of some savings?

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  • lisyloo
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    edited 6 December 2020 at 4:42PM
    wilfred30 said:
    Generally speaking then, I presume it would be for the Local Authority to decide as they would be lumbered with paying the cost of the care for someone who couldn't pay it themselves.
    With the help of reports from hospitals/doctors yes.
    my MIL was observed in hospital for a while to see if she was able to make safe decisions (she actually had a fall in hospital during this time).
    also partners may be assessed as well, for example my FIL hobbled in on his Zimmer frame and broke down emotionally saying he couldn’t take responsibility 24/7 for her, which was very difficult for him.
    there is an option for care at home, the limit tends to be 4 x 1 hour visits per day, these were in the order of £15 per hour when we paid privately so cheaper than residential care.
    it would depend on capability but also whether they have help and can make safe decisions for themselves,
    the LA will not put someone in residential or nursing care until the point that they definitely need it. Before that partner, family, meals on wheels, care at home should step in.
    There may also be some sheltered accommodation options but these are in limited supply.
    with private resources it would be better to move in advance to help the person adjust but resources are such that someone won’t get it until they need it if they aren’t self funding, It’s common for this to happen when an elderly person has a fall or illness and doesn’t get well enough to go home or look after themselves.
    don’t forget that care at home is an option first if someone is safe. Once they forget to drink or turn the cooker off then they are no longer safe,
  • Gavin83
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    To answer Wilfred30's question (I can't find the post) typically the local authority don't make the choice as to which home they'll go in. What they'll normally do is provide a small list of homes to the relatives and let them make the decision as to which one is best. This will of course only contain homes which accept the council rate, unless a relative has indicated they're willing to pay a top up fee.

    This process generally works quite well and only really becomes a problem when the relative doesn't like any of the homes offered, normally because they've got one in mind which inevitably ends up being one which charges above the council rate. Despite what one poster who pops up on these sort of threads will tell you the LA won't pay the top up fees except in exceptional circumstances and the relative putting up a fight isn't one of these.

    Also like most things in life you typically get what you pay for, although they'll always be exceptions. Every home has to provide a basic level of care by law, the extra money above the council rate will typically pay for a nicer room, more activities, a better menu, that kind of thing. As a caveat it's also entirely likely you'll have privately funded residents in a home filled mainly with council funded residents, although personally I think it's madness to place such a resident there. As mentioned above though it's largely the decision of the family.
  • lisyloo
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    edited 9 December 2020 at 10:05AM
    We got top up fees covered twice but it was difficult. We went to panel.
    we had 2 things going for us. Both parents were in hospital bed blocking and I believe LAs can be fined punitively by hospitals for this so they had a urgent factor.
    we providded very strong advocacy including the physical needs, emotional (Maried 60 years) and their rights.
    i would not in anyway say it’s easy and never guaranteed but it is possible especially if the hospital wants rid.
    we did not find a decent home within LA rates in our area, this was partly down to a high level of needs e.g. assistance of 2, hoisting where the options available narrow down. There were many places that Said they wouldn’t take one parent.

    anyone depriving themselves or their parents of money is nuts IME although my own parents have done exactly that (without consulting me). Once I said on here it wasn’t legal and received a long and formal complaint from a legal firm, so it appears there are legal methods which require legal advice and help.
  • Gavin83
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    Gavin83 said:
    Despite what one poster who pops up on these sort of threads will tell you the LA won't pay the top up fees except in exceptional circumstances and the relative putting up a fight isn't one of these.
    Lisyloo, it's almost like you sensed my comment....

    I'll be totally honest here. The circumstances you describe are so unusual that if you were a new poster I'd claim you were making it up. As you've been here a while I'll just assume you have an extremely generous LA, or they were feeling particularly worn down that day. As I said in my post there are exceptional circumstances where the LA will pay top up fees and keeping the couple together is not one of them. I've seen a number of long married couples placed in different care homes and I've never known any LA's to pay top up fees to prevent this.

    There's a reason people often advise people to keep hold of their assets to allow them choices when it comes to care. If you want to be placed in the same care home as your spouse then make sure you've got enough assets to pay for it. Otherwise the LA will decide and while they'll make every attempt to keep them together if they can't find a home that accepts the council rate for both of them they will get separated.

    You are correct in that LA's do get fined for bed blocking in hospitals. However this wouldn't be a reason to pay a top up fee. If you think about it logically the bed blocking fines are still likely to be significantly less than paying top up fees for a care home resident for several years. If relatives refused all home options, especially if they were bed blocking the council would remove the right for the relative to select the home and the LA would choose instead.

    Honestly I think you got very lucky. While I think it's worth sharing your experiences as something that could potentially happen I do think it's dangerous advice to give on the whole given how unusual the circumstances are. Most wouldn't get the same result.
  • DerektheDonkey
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    edited 9 December 2020 at 3:18PM
    lisyloo said:
    We got top up fees covered twice but it was difficult. We went to panel.
    we had 2 things going for us. Both parents were in hospital bed blocking and I believe LAs can be fined punitively by hospitals for this so they had a urgent factor.
    we providded very strong advocacy including the physical needs, emotional (Maried 60 years) and their rights.
    i would not in anyway say it’s easy and never guaranteed but it is possible especially if the hospital wants rid.
    we did not find a decent home within LA rates in our area, this was partly down to a high level of needs e.g. assistance of 2, hoisting where the options available narrow down. There were many places that Said they wouldn’t take one parent.

    anyone depriving themselves or their parents of money is nuts IME although my own parents have done exactly that (without consulting me). Once I said on here it wasn’t legal and received a long and formal complaint from a legal firm, so it appears there are legal methods which require legal advice and help.
    BIB, I quote, "We got top up fees covered twice but it was difficult.'
    You've already mentioned nursing care rather than care homes, might you mean continuing health care (CHC) top-ups to the nursing home in which Health are paying these top-ups, not the council?
    It's still cheaper than keeping persons in hospital.
    That'd be entirely different to what I believe Gavin83 is correctly stating.



  • lisyloo
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    edited 9 December 2020 at 8:09PM
    Gavin83 said:
    Gavin83 said:
    Despite what one poster who pops up on these sort of threads will tell you the LA won't pay the top up fees except in exceptional circumstances and the relative putting up a fight isn't one of these.
    Lisyloo, it's almost like you sensed my comment....

    I'll be totally honest here. The circumstances you describe are so unusual that if you were a new poster I'd claim you were making it up. As you've been here a while I'll just assume you have an extremely generous LA, or they were feeling particularly worn down that day. As I said in my post there are exceptional circumstances where the LA will pay top up fees and keeping the couple together is not one of them. I've seen a number of long married couples placed in different care homes and I've never known any LA's to pay top up fees to prevent this.

    There's a reason people often advise people to keep hold of their assets to allow them choices when it comes to care. If you want to be placed in the same care home as your spouse then make sure you've got enough assets to pay for it. Otherwise the LA will decide and while they'll make every attempt to keep them together if they can't find a home that accepts the council rate for both of them they will get separated.

    You are correct in that LA's do get fined for bed blocking in hospitals. However this wouldn't be a reason to pay a top up fee. If you think about it logically the bed blocking fines are still likely to be significantly less than paying top up fees for a care home resident for several years. If relatives refused all home options, especially if they were bed blocking the council would remove the right for the relative to select the home and the LA would choose instead.

    Honestly I think you got very lucky. While I think it's worth sharing your experiences as something that could potentially happen I do think it's dangerous advice to give on the whole given how unusual the circumstances are. Most wouldn't get the same result.
    I was hoping you comment wasn’t referring to me as I don’t think I’ve ever described it as anything like a racing certainty.
    i can’t see how you can describe it as generous in anyway to split up a couple who were married for 60 years. We had to fight with arguments on several fronts.
    I can’t see how they would been worn down as it would have to go to a panel which is multiple people reviewing the case.
    it may be a high level of need but there genuinely weren’t that many homes in our area that would take both immobility (hoists needed) and dimension. Obviously we had a preference for somewhere that would keep her until the grave and not disorient a dimension patient when her needs exceeded their capacity. Whilst I understand what’s available on the taxpayer (and that’s me BTW) is limited, certain things (kicking dimensia patients out, splitting up married couple) are cruel.
    To be clear they paid top up fees as we refused (fought) on every other place with good and well argued reasons.
    I’m not sure about the top up bit. The LA have an agreed with the home that are about £100 cheaper than private rates (I know this because MiL paid privately once FIL died and home was no longer disregarded). It’s more than they’d like to pay but they do put some LA residents there (we were not the only one).

    i totally agree with advising people to keep hold of their assets and I think I used our example to do this (or at least that was what I was trying to do). As it happened our folks did not have assets until one of them passed anyway so it’s not relevant in their case.

    the LA did seem to have some urgency. We did our best to visit the homes as quick as we could butwe all have jobs and don’t all live locally.

    we did not refuse all home options, but many refused MIL (dimensia, incontinent and mobility issues). We were not being difficult, we put valid reasons forward for all those we refused.

    i was not giving advice, not in the context you think anyway.
    i was warning how difficult it was and how couples might get split up.
    i regret if that did not come across.
    i certainly would encourage people to keep hold of assets.
    i am not sure how you can misconstrue “anyone depriving themselves or their parents of money is nuts IME”, so I think you are being somewhat unfair in your interpretation of what I have been saying.
    its all true BTW the home was edgemont view in Bristol and LA was BANES. Not sure if it makes any difference but it went across a boundary (to a cheaper area as Bristol is cheaper than bath generally).

    it would genuinely help if you can link to any comments where I’ve implied this is dead easy or to be relied upon as I think I’ve been saying the exact opposite.
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