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Universal Credit - Money reduced because child in education.
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_TinRibs_ said:Now, what was I doing when I was 19.I was on my way for an 18 month single mans draft to HMS Rooke in Gibraltar. Well before the border was open - great draft.Previous to this, I had served on 2 ships. HMS Cygnet, HMS Sheffield (sunk in the Falklands). I had done two tours of Northen Ireland (HMS Cygnet was one of the NI patrol ships). Because of the tours, I had bagged myself my first General Service Medal (GSM).The bloke needs to get a job!
If you knew my son you wouldn't even suggest that. He has an amazing mind and capability with numbers but he is not a hands on person. He is a millennial that does everything on a computer, a geek if you like. I think if an army sergeant shouted at him he would melt but he is a smart fast thinking young man that will thrive in the right environment. We can't change him, nor do we want to change him and what gives us the right anyway? We all want to our kids to succeed in something they are good at and hopefully they will contribute to the better of mankind.
Anyway I will be in prison before he has to leave college. I hate to say that but it's true.0 -
so you agree he needs to work to pay for his living expenses.
Rather than use your efforts to help him get benefits or funding your energy would be better used in helping him gain employment.
At this point even a paper round would help with the family finances. Can he not use a bike car etc to deliver for one of the many fast food delivery companies or perhaps get a seasonal Job in a supermarket or other business that does a lot of trade around Christmas and need extra staff?
If you dont find a way of him helping you with the bills you will end up all suffering and potentially being in debt or losing your home.
Time for a wakeup call for all of you.
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sparkyuiop said:_TinRibs_ said:Now, what was I doing when I was 19.I was on my way for an 18 month single mans draft to HMS Rooke in Gibraltar. Well before the border was open - great draft.Previous to this, I had served on 2 ships. HMS Cygnet, HMS Sheffield (sunk in the Falklands). I had done two tours of Northen Ireland (HMS Cygnet was one of the NI patrol ships). Because of the tours, I had bagged myself my first General Service Medal (GSM).The bloke needs to get a job!
If you knew my son you wouldn't even suggest that. He has an amazing mind and capability with numbers but he is not a hands on person. He is a millennial that does everything on a computer, a geek if you like. I think if an army sergeant shouted at him he would melt but he is a smart fast thinking young man that will thrive in the right environment. We can't change him, nor do we want to change him and what gives us the right anyway? We all want to our kids to succeed in something they are good at and hopefully they will contribute to the better of mankind.
Anyway I will be in prison before he has to leave college. I hate to say that but it's true.
He is not a child and if he is as clever as you think he is why is he doing the course now that he should of done at school?
The average age to start Uni here is 18 not 200 -
sparkyuiop said:Spoonie_Turtle said:yksi said:As a responsible adult he should be helping to support himself. Choosing to study but not apply for the funding you mentioned earlier is his choice.
I think some people underestimate how many people with plenty of experience are looking for work right now and overestimate how many vacancies there are. There's also the issue of whether jobs are feasible, whether the person can get to the workplace without having to travel for hours each way and spend half their wages on transport costs.0 -
Spoonie_Turtle said:sparkyuiop said:Spoonie_Turtle said:yksi said:As a responsible adult he should be helping to support himself. Choosing to study but not apply for the funding you mentioned earlier is his choice.
I think some people underestimate how many people with plenty of experience are looking for work right now and overestimate how many vacancies there are. There's also the issue of whether jobs are feasible, whether the person can get to the workplace without having to travel for hours each way and spend half their wages on transport costs.
Beggars cant be choosers and there is no shame in taking any job to keep your family afloat0 -
Spoonie_Turtle said:sparkyuiop said:Spoonie_Turtle said:yksi said:As a responsible adult he should be helping to support himself. Choosing to study but not apply for the funding you mentioned earlier is his choice.
I think some people underestimate how many people with plenty of experience are looking for work right now and overestimate how many vacancies there are. There's also the issue of whether jobs are feasible, whether the person can get to the workplace without having to travel for hours each way and spend half their wages on transport costs.
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baza52 said:Spoonie_Turtle said:sparkyuiop said:Spoonie_Turtle said:yksi said:As a responsible adult he should be helping to support himself. Choosing to study but not apply for the funding you mentioned earlier is his choice.
I think some people underestimate how many people with plenty of experience are looking for work right now and overestimate how many vacancies there are. There's also the issue of whether jobs are feasible, whether the person can get to the workplace without having to travel for hours each way and spend half their wages on transport costs.
Beggars cant be choosers and there is no shame in taking any job to keep your family afloat
I do understand your point but I really don't think it's as easy as you make out. Normally there would be loads of retail jobs around now but when businesses are folding and having to lay off staff, those jobs just aren't there.
I'm sure the OP's son would appreciate specific suggestions for the types of jobs that are apparently in great abundance, to help his search.1 -
Spoonie_Turtle said:baza52 said:Spoonie_Turtle said:sparkyuiop said:Spoonie_Turtle said:yksi said:As a responsible adult he should be helping to support himself. Choosing to study but not apply for the funding you mentioned earlier is his choice.
I think some people underestimate how many people with plenty of experience are looking for work right now and overestimate how many vacancies there are. There's also the issue of whether jobs are feasible, whether the person can get to the workplace without having to travel for hours each way and spend half their wages on transport costs.
Beggars cant be choosers and there is no shame in taking any job to keep your family afloat
I do understand your point but I really don't think it's as easy as you make out. Normally there would be loads of retail jobs around now but when businesses are folding and having to lay off staff, those jobs just aren't there.
I'm sure the OP's son would appreciate specific suggestions for the types of jobs that are apparently in great abundance, to help his search.
What's the point in him even going to Uni if there are plenty of over qualified people in line for the job he wants to get with no previous experience.
Jobs are still there and the cheaper minimum wage employees will be more sought after than ever.
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Job availability depends on where you live and whether there are transport options to be a reliable employee. Plus a flexible approach is needed in regard to job type.
Where I live there are warehouse, some retail, construction, factory operatives, couriers. But job availability is patchy, with people living in some areas of the country having fewer options.
The comments I post are personal opinion. Always refer to official information sources before relying on internet forums. If you have a problem with any organisation, enter into their official complaints process at the earliest opportunity, as sometimes complaints have to be started within a certain time frame.0 -
Spoonie_Turtle said:sparkyuiop said:Spoonie_Turtle said:yksi said:As a responsible adult he should be helping to support himself. Choosing to study but not apply for the funding you mentioned earlier is his choice.
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