British families.

DCFC79

Riley_G said:

Hey guys, there is no need to be rude.

It seems I joined an elite forum where only the select few choose who is welcome.

I am sorry for wasting everyone's time, I'll stop posting now. 

No need to stop posting, this is a great forum, look Im not going to lie there will be some rude posters on here but also some great ones.

AskAsk

Torry_Quine said:

AskAsk said:

Riley_G said:

WickedWitch123 said:

AskAsk said:

Savvy_Sue said:

Riley_G said:

Savvy_Sue said:

What I don't quite understand is why your boyfriend isn't giving you a reverse cultural induction to the one he must have had when he came to the USA.

He tried. Oh he tried. I prefer learning my own way. 

I don't know anyone else in the UK. I've never been to the UK. Boyfriend has told me to do some things. 

PLEASE make some friends yourself. I know it's not the the best of times, but whatever YOUR interests are make time for them and try to connect with like-minded people. 

it is actually not that easy to make friends in the UK as people are more reserved and are more cautious around strangers, particularly foreigners.  but yes, the OP should try to make friends as it is pretty lonely just to depend on her boyfriend.

best way to make friends is to join some sort of activity club where you can meet people who like similar things to you.

Hey that may be true if you're from 'down South' but up here in Manchester we are an extremely friendly and approachable bunch.  OP you seem outgoing and confident - you'll have no trouble making friends in Manchester. Obviously not a great time with COVID but you'll be fine.  Any other questions, ask away and welcome to the UK xx

Thank you, people on the tram were lovely. I had a nice chat with a lovely old lady who advised me to avoid an area with an "accent like mine". 

I try and be outgoing and confident sometimes I am the scared New Yorker in a new city. You guys seem to take COVID a lot more seriously than we do in the states, which is great!

I have to say your cell companies are also cheaper! I went to the cell phone store and got a new phone. They gave me £10 off a month, A free carry case and a screen protector. I have a shiny new UK phone, I can use back in NY at no charge.

You are all lovely! Thank you!

I do have another question what do all the rainbow drawings mean? My boyfriend said its to clap for keyworkers due to covid. I just think they look really cute.

I also hear my boyfriend talk about down south and loads of people have mentioned it, Does the north not like the south?

only the scots hate the english as far as i am aware.  the rest of the northerners think the southerners are a bit stuck up and unfriendly.  the southerners don't hate the northerners, we just think they have a funny accent 

Well this Scot doesn't hate the English. It's annoying when something is described as national when it's English though.

i only know the scots hate the english because my husband used to date a scottish lady and she said that the scots hate the english because of the past, your rob roy and all that  , but that on an individual level, a scot can be friends with someone english, so the animosity is not at the personal level but the national level.

AskAsk

ratechaser said:

gt568 said:

Riley_G said:

gt568 said:

This is windup thread right?  or a child off school??

No?

Sorry didn't realize this forum was for the select few.

I can't believe a sane adult would ask these questions.

Yup. Surprised it took so long to call 'BS' on this one.

And to the OP, if you really are for real, cheer up as this is an essential part of your cultural integration, realising that we major in cynicism... 

anything 'ism' isn't it?  skeptism, pessimism, crititism, .... 

JamoLew

Torry_Quine said:

AskAsk said:

Riley_G said:

WickedWitch123 said:

AskAsk said:

Savvy_Sue said:

Riley_G said:

Savvy_Sue said:

What I don't quite understand is why your boyfriend isn't giving you a reverse cultural induction to the one he must have had when he came to the USA.

He tried. Oh he tried. I prefer learning my own way. 

I don't know anyone else in the UK. I've never been to the UK. Boyfriend has told me to do some things. 

PLEASE make some friends yourself. I know it's not the the best of times, but whatever YOUR interests are make time for them and try to connect with like-minded people. 

it is actually not that easy to make friends in the UK as people are more reserved and are more cautious around strangers, particularly foreigners.  but yes, the OP should try to make friends as it is pretty lonely just to depend on her boyfriend.

best way to make friends is to join some sort of activity club where you can meet people who like similar things to you.

Hey that may be true if you're from 'down South' but up here in Manchester we are an extremely friendly and approachable bunch.  OP you seem outgoing and confident - you'll have no trouble making friends in Manchester. Obviously not a great time with COVID but you'll be fine.  Any other questions, ask away and welcome to the UK xx

Thank you, people on the tram were lovely. I had a nice chat with a lovely old lady who advised me to avoid an area with an "accent like mine". 

I try and be outgoing and confident sometimes I am the scared New Yorker in a new city. You guys seem to take COVID a lot more seriously than we do in the states, which is great!

I have to say your cell companies are also cheaper! I went to the cell phone store and got a new phone. They gave me £10 off a month, A free carry case and a screen protector. I have a shiny new UK phone, I can use back in NY at no charge.

You are all lovely! Thank you!

I do have another question what do all the rainbow drawings mean? My boyfriend said its to clap for keyworkers due to covid. I just think they look really cute.

I also hear my boyfriend talk about down south and loads of people have mentioned it, Does the north not like the south?

only the scots hate the english as far as i am aware.  the rest of the northerners think the southerners are a bit stuck up and unfriendly.  the southerners don't hate the northerners, we just think they have a funny accent 

Well this Scot doesn't hate the English. It's annoying when something is described as national when it's English though.

Its "nationality" by convenience -I recall a well known Scottish tennis player calling for all of Britain to get behind him and show their support - yet in a following interview, he corrected the interviewer and said something like "I'm not British, I'm Scottish"

OP - also note - big difference between Scots and Scotch
And its pronounced Birminghum NOT BirmingHAM - Glasgo NOT Glasgow
The list is endless - hope you enjoy our wonderful country(countries), we pack a lot into a little space, ask if unsure and don't take offence at grumpy people (it's something to do with the weather I hear)

MovingForwards

@JamoLew hum will be black country, wolves, Walsall accent as I've never heard a Brummie say it any other way than ham.

gt568

I stand by my statement.  BS thread.

If you want expat info, you go to expat type forums....not, checks notes, a moneysaving forum.

JamoLew

MovingForwards said:

@JamoLew hum will be black country, wolves, Walsall accent as I've never heard a Brummie say it any other way than ham.

True - i think its more that Americans tend to put a lot of emphasis/harshness on the HAM almost as a separate world rather than a soft transition from the Birming

JamoLew

gt568 said:

I stand by my statement.  BS thread.

If you want expat info, you go to expat type forums....not, checks notes, a moneysaving forum.

I beg to differ - BS threads and Trolls have a tendency to be more controversial and don't often return to their threads - they get pleasure from causing strife and arguments, I don't see any of that here (from the OP at least)
At least it seems like she is trying to integrate rather than just turn up and expect everyone/everything to change so it's "just like back home"

Riley_G

I'm really sorry I don't want to cause any trouble.

I am just trying to fit in. I was big on the money saving back home, (Lived off coupons when shopping!) Getting the best deal and my boyfriend actually told me about this place. 

If I had known I was going to cause trouble I'd have kept away. 

For the record I had asked my boyfriend about the UK, but I do like asking others too. I'm sorry if thats wrong or not the "British" way. I'm only trying to fit in.

JamoLew

Riley_G said:

I'm really sorry I don't want to cause any trouble.

I am just trying to fit in. I was big on the money saving back home, (Lived off coupons when shopping!) Getting the best deal and my boyfriend actually told me about this place. 

If I had known I was going to cause trouble I'd have kept away. 

For the record I had asked my boyfriend about the UK, but I do like asking others too. I'm sorry if thats wrong or not the "British" way. I'm only trying to fit in.

Its no trouble - ask away