Sister causing trouble

ameliarate

My father died in January. My brother and I are executors of his will. I have two sisters and a brother. The youngest sister could cause an argument in an empty room. This is a known fact within the family. We are waiting for the house to sell, but other than that everything is sorted out. She has now decided that my brother and I are trying to rip her and my other sister off. I honestly have no idea where this has come from  The other sister is an alcoholic. I am told she is saying things too, but then she denies it when I ask her.   My brother and I have all the paperwork to prove every penny in and out so are not worried, BUT, what if any problems can she create. She is saying she is going to see a solicitor. Thanks. 

Mojisola

ameliarate said:

My brother and I have all the paperwork to prove every penny in and out so are not worried, BUT, what if any problems can she create. She is saying she is going to see a solicitor.

That will cost her - there's nothing she can do as you have all the paperwork.

Just try to ignore her.

xylophone

My brother and I are executors of his will.

It seems that you have obtained probate and therefore have the legal authority to deal with his estate.

My brother and I have all the paperwork to prove every penny in and out 

Which is just as it should be.

BUT, what if any problems can she create. She is saying she is going to see a solicitor. 

All your paperwork relating to the estate account is in order so that you have a full audit trail.

She can  instruct a solicitor if she wishes but I should think that all he would do would be to request sight of the accounts.

She'll be paying through the nose for him to make the same request as she could make to you in person for free........

ameliarate

So she couldn’t, for example, put. Stop to the sale of the house? 

Keep_pedalling

ameliarate said:

So she couldn’t, for example, put. Stop to the sale of the house? 

No, as executors you have the right to sell the house. Once sold just distribute the estate and give your sisters a copy of the estate accounts. Her threat is almost certainly an empty one, and even if she does consult a solicitor they will almost certainly tell her not to waste her money.

GN2020

ameliarate said:

My father died in January. My brother and I are executors of his will. I have two sisters and a brother. The youngest sister could cause an argument in an empty room. This is a known fact within the family. We are waiting for the house to sell, but other than that everything is sorted out. She has now decided that my brother and I are trying to rip her and my other sister off. I honestly have no idea where this has come from  The other sister is an alcoholic. I am told she is saying things too, but then she denies it when I ask her.   My brother and I have all the paperwork to prove every penny in and out so are not worried, BUT, what if any problems can she create. She is saying she is going to see a solicitor. Thanks. 

Firstly, please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. 

I’m not a solicitor in any way shape or form, but I’ve been through something similar this year. 

Some people become absolute vultures when they get a sniff of money. 

What is she hoping to achieve? Has she said? As in, does she want more money than you and your brother? 

Are your fathers wishes stated in his will what he wants to happen with his estate? 

As the executor of your fathers will, which is legal and valid, my advice to you would be, stick to your guns, carry on doing what you’ve been doing which sounds all above board, and if she wants to seek legal advice, let her. 
I can’t see that she’ll get anywhere. 

I know what a really horrible situation this is, some people really show their true colours after a death don’t they....

ameliarate

GN2020 said:

ameliarate said:

My father died in January. My brother and I are executors of his will. I have two sisters and a brother. The youngest sister could cause an argument in an empty room. This is a known fact within the family. We are waiting for the house to sell, but other than that everything is sorted out. She has now decided that my brother and I are trying to rip her and my other sister off. I honestly have no idea where this has come from  The other sister is an alcoholic. I am told she is saying things too, but then she denies it when I ask her.   My brother and I have all the paperwork to prove every penny in and out so are not worried, BUT, what if any problems can she create. She is saying she is going to see a solicitor. Thanks. 

Firstly, please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. 

I’m not a solicitor in any way shape or form, but I’ve been through something similar this year. 

Some people become absolute vultures when they get a sniff of money. 

What is she hoping to achieve? Has she said? As in, does she want more money than you and your brother? 

Are your fathers wishes stated in his will what he wants to happen with his estate? 

As the executor of your fathers will, which is legal and valid, my advice to you would be, stick to your guns, carry on doing what you’ve been doing which sounds all above board, and if she wants to seek legal advice, let her. 
I can’t see that she’ll get anywhere. 

I know what a really horrible situation this is, some people really show their true colours after a death don’t they....

Thank you. The will is very clear and the estate is split equally four ways. Honestly no idea what her problem is but she is always falling out with someone. 

GN2020

ameliarate said:

GN2020 said:

ameliarate said:

My father died in January. My brother and I are executors of his will. I have two sisters and a brother. The youngest sister could cause an argument in an empty room. This is a known fact within the family. We are waiting for the house to sell, but other than that everything is sorted out. She has now decided that my brother and I are trying to rip her and my other sister off. I honestly have no idea where this has come from  The other sister is an alcoholic. I am told she is saying things too, but then she denies it when I ask her.   My brother and I have all the paperwork to prove every penny in and out so are not worried, BUT, what if any problems can she create. She is saying she is going to see a solicitor. Thanks. 

Firstly, please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. 

I’m not a solicitor in any way shape or form, but I’ve been through something similar this year. 

Some people become absolute vultures when they get a sniff of money. 

What is she hoping to achieve? Has she said? As in, does she want more money than you and your brother? 

Are your fathers wishes stated in his will what he wants to happen with his estate? 

As the executor of your fathers will, which is legal and valid, my advice to you would be, stick to your guns, carry on doing what you’ve been doing which sounds all above board, and if she wants to seek legal advice, let her. 
I can’t see that she’ll get anywhere. 

I know what a really horrible situation this is, some people really show their true colours after a death don’t they....

Thank you. The will is very clear and the estate is split equally four ways. Honestly no idea what her problem is but she is always falling out with someone. 

Then as far as I’m aware, she doesn’t have a leg to stand on. 

Presumably your father was of sound mind and had full capacity when he made the will? 

If she wants to challenge the will then it’ll cost her a small fortune and any solicitor worth their salt will tell her that. 

AnotherJoe

ameliarate said:

So she couldn’t, for example, put. Stop to the sale of the house? 

Sorry to disagree with other posters but she could or she could claim money from you on teh grounds you didnt get a good enough price.  So have a good audit trail. This happened to a friend of mine, one relative threatened to sue if they didnt sell the house for more than theyw ere going to even though they only had one buyer after 3 years !

In the end they got a RICS (??) surveyor in to price it and squeezed a little bit more out of the buyer (but not much) and then told the relative accept that or its going back on the market and you can wait another 3 years.

ameliarate

AnotherJoe said:

ameliarate said:

So she couldn’t, for example, put. Stop to the sale of the house? 

Sorry to disagree with other posters but she could or she could claim money from you on teh grounds you didnt get a good enough price.  So have a good audit trail. This happened to a friend of mine, one relative threatened to sue if they didnt sell the house for more than theyw ere going to even though they only had one buyer after 3 years !

In the end they got a RICS (??) surveyor in to price it and squeezed a little bit more out of the buyer (but not much) and then told the relative accept that or its going back on the market and you can wait another 3 years.

Interestingly I posted about a dilemma I was having about selling to her ex-husband or some friends, the friends were offering more. We have decided to go with the friends, so she may well get upset about that, even though she doesn’t care about him, but we will be getting a higher price so that will scupper her chances. It isn’t just about the money, they have a buyer for their house and he doesn’t. 

AnotherJoe

ameliarate said:

AnotherJoe said:

ameliarate said:

So she couldn’t, for example, put. Stop to the sale of the house? 

Sorry to disagree with other posters but she could or she could claim money from you on teh grounds you didnt get a good enough price.  So have a good audit trail. This happened to a friend of mine, one relative threatened to sue if they didnt sell the house for more than theyw ere going to even though they only had one buyer after 3 years !

In the end they got a RICS (??) surveyor in to price it and squeezed a little bit more out of the buyer (but not much) and then told the relative accept that or its going back on the market and you can wait another 3 years.

Interestingly I posted about a dilemma I was having about selling to her ex-husband or some friends, the friends were offering more. We have decided to go with the friends, so she may well get upset about that, even though she doesn’t care about him, but we will be getting a higher price so that will scupper her chances. It isn’t just about the money, they have a buyer for their house and he doesn’t. 

yep she'd be on a loser there !