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Jelly_baby133

Please I need urgent advice I have been married to my husband for 29 years and four months in theses years life at times was brutal but I stayed for the children, occasionally there would be apology’s soon indifferences again. In 2017 I had another house ‘accident’ this time it was almost fatal I developed a very unusual cancer oncologist have agreed it could well have been to the intense trauma I expected at the time. Consequently I have had a double mastectomy a lot of lymph nodes removed followed by 18 intense chemo treatments and 18 intense radiotherapy rounds. Since then my husband has been physically abusive to me and finically withdrawn money can always be found for fball trips, business trips, with I’m never allow to go on, as it would be to expensive and private gym membership. He is an account with his own Shared practice With one other person. They employ three staff whom I have never meet nor have I met his partner. He also has a laundrette which he says has partners.Again I haven’t a clue. I have a number of concerns .
1. He won’t make a joined will nor will he make a will never mind share details.
2. He promises heaven and earth after a bout of abuse , he gives me £250 a month for house keeping and I get ppa higher rate.but I use this for taxis to hospital as I still need treatment I will be on chemotherapy for a long time with bouts of radiation thankfully small doses. 

3, After the last bad episode he promised to go to therapy but only together as it is me who makes him so mad therefore it being my fault. It never got therapy. I have asked for a equal share in his accountancy firm, which he agreed to and a equal share too in the laundrette is a very small business  in a village e says it doesn’t generate much of a profit and for us both to make wills together. We have three children so I want to make sure they at least are provided for even though they are young adults now.
4. Each time I am brave enough to approach the subject there is always an adverse effect. However the last time recently I mentioned it he clinched his fist beating his other hand and a lot of expletives followed by his ‘Rumblestilskin’ stamping on the floor. It was very frightening this time because he went from 0 to 100 rage wise immediately.
Please can someone help me with practical advise regarding financial and partnership to the businesses please don’t reply negatively as I have said I want these things for our children and if I am in anyway in titled to them how can protect them for myself and family.
 I have reached out to women’s aid many times but they are so stretched a place could have been found for me but no place over the years could be found for me and my children when they were young. Now I need intense after care so no place can provide for my needs the only and it is not certain would be a nursing home of some description. I have no extended family support. My children live in rooms with shared strangers.
if anyone can help confidently please.

Savvy_Sue

How old are your children now? And are any of them living with you now? 

Never mind wills, shared business interests, therapy: I'd want out, now. 

AskAsk

i am a bit confused about what is going on.  are you looking to leave your husband as he is physically abusive?

lincroft1710

Regarding the will, although everyone should make a will, it is not compulsory and as his wife, should your husband die intestate (without a will in place) and he was resident in either England or Wales, then you would receive the first £270,000 of his assets plus all personal possessions and half of any amount over £270,000, your children receiving the other half. Under £270,000 and you would get it all.

The value of the businesses would be impossible to estimate without a lot, lot more information. It is not impossible that his share may have little actual value

74jax

AskAsk said:

i am a bit confused about what is going on.  are you looking to leave your husband as he is physically abusive?

I'm confused too..... I think they are staying as they want to sort wills..... I think..... 🤔 

AskAsk

74jax said:

AskAsk said:

i am a bit confused about what is going on.  are you looking to leave your husband as he is physically abusive?

I'm confused too..... I think they are staying as they want to sort wills..... I think..... 🤔 

lol.  i can't find the confused emoticon.  where did you get that from??
so the OP wants to sort out the will, then bumps the husband off? 

pphillips

I don't think it's a good idea to stay with an abusive husband for any reason.
A mirror will is going to be of little consequence if he changes it or you end up getting divorced.

Savvy_Sue

AskAsk said:

so the OP wants to sort out the will, then bumps the husband off? 

Tempting though that might be, DH reminds me that it's a principle of English law that you can't profit from your crimes. 

But the situation described is no joke,  and I'll repeat my advice to get out and sue for divorce.

AskAsk

Savvy_Sue said:

AskAsk said:

so the OP wants to sort out the will, then bumps the husband off? 

Tempting though that might be, DH reminds me that it's a principle of English law that you can't profit from your crimes. 

But the situation described is no joke,  and I'll repeat my advice to get out and sue for divorce.

until the OP clarifies what they are asking for, no one can advise. 
i am uncertain what the actual question is, as the OP waffles on about domestic abuse but then asks about business.  so if it is a question about getting a will set up, then why go into all the details about the domestic abuse?

Keep_pedalling

There is no way the OP should carry on with such an abusive relationship, time to get the hell out. Divorce takes time, but whether you go or stay, the first thing to do is make your own will. Assuming you own your home as joint tenants, you should split the tenancy so that you can leave your share to you children rather than him.

Make  an appointment with a solicitor ASAP.

Jelly_baby133

Thank you Keep-pedalling you seem to understand my situation it does seem I should go but with my current disabilities I have no where else to go but to an nursing home. Thank you all for your time in reading my waffling ons ands replies. I would like to share something domestic abuse is very real very often mental and physical abuse goes hand in hand. It was hurtful to read the dismissive comments please consider when someone is in dire need laughing mocking them just make it a lot worse.