DFW Advent Calendar 2007/Daily Chat Thread - 4th Dec

immoral_angeluk

floss2 wrote: »

Yes, join the rest of us mums who struggle to find healthy food that the kids will eat!

Sorry to hear about your dilemma Toto :grouphug:

Floss x

Oven chips ARE healthy

postingalwaysposting

Lemon_Tree wrote: »

my tree won't go up until the weekend before christmas, do i sound like a bar humbug? lol

Snap after this weekend i am working up till xmas weekend so thats when its going up. However saying that its already made it downstairs due to the workmen being here. Maybe it will go up this weekend, still deciding.

Well i have been offline all afternoon, sat downstairs bored. I feel so lost without my pc its unreal, thank hevens i have work the rest of the week. Anyways i am off to bed soon these earely mornings are killing me :rolleyes: so much for going to college.

toto, hope you are ok.

ZTD

Toto wrote: »

It was slapped in my face yesterday afternoon when I had a call from my agent asking if I would do a tour in April for 8 weeks. My other daughter was sitting next to me and could hear the conversation, she turned away and went to walk off, I grabbed her and as she turned I could see tears streaming down her face. I felt like the worst parent on the planet. My little one was so sad, she couldn't stand the idea that mummy would be off working again for weeks at a time.

So let me get this right. You children have the chance to get rid of you for 8 weeks, and they burst into tears, and this makes you a bad mother? I'm afraid I don't quite understand that train of thought. If given the chance to get rid of you for 8 weeks, they pulled their jerseys over their heads and ran a victory lap through the house shouting "She shoots! She scores!" - then maybe then it would follow that you weren't the best of mothers to have around.

Toto wrote: »

In fairness I hate the tours too, but I'm so stuck between earning a living and being a mum. Sometimes it's hard to turn the work away, on a 2 month tour I can earn £20,000, that allows me to not work for a few months, picking and choosing what I do. But, rightly so, the kids don't care about that and I suppose it's a lesson I needed to learn too.

I'm going for a meeting with my agent today who is no doubt going to tell me I am only as good as my last gig

I'm sure he also says stuff like "Trust me." and "The cheque is in the post."

Toto wrote: »

I have to leave totally though, if I say I'll only do the studio sessions I'll keep having the tours and stuff thrown at me, and they are hard to keep turning down.

How hard is hard? Isn't this the second you've turned down in the past couple of weeks? Is it not getting any easier?

Toto wrote: »

So, that's my news, sorry to make this thread all about me again! I seem to do that daily with my dramas. I just wanted to get it all off my chest though. Hope you don't mind

Would we mind?

ZTD

keren29 wrote: »

I'm still trying to tell myself I do NOT need a new Christmas tree. The one in the loft, costing £4 from Ebay 3 years ago will probably do another year and when it is decorated is, at the end of the day, just a Christmas tree, even though it looks a bit tatty when 'naked'. Spending £25 on a new one when it's only going to see the light of day for 21 days of the year is daft and I have to try to shake the urge to spend!!!!

A christmas tree is just something to keep the tinsel up - it doesn't matter what it looks like naked. If you could get baubles to levitate - you wouldn't need one at all...

ZTD

This may be of interest to some people dealing with autism.

Snaggles

That's quite interesting Zed, thanks. It sounds like the 'towel trick' that IA used on her XBox, oddly enough. (I'm not making light of it at all, just struck by the similarities).

spud30

southernscouser wrote: »

Tote's, I don't think I've really got any right to say this, but I'm gonna say it anyway! :rotfl:

If you gave your children the choice of anything they wanted or their mum what would they choose?

I'm not trying to influence your decision as like I said I've got no right to but, and everyone is different, being in debt has taught me that although money can buy you the most of expensive things, it really has little value! :think:

That sounded like one of those chinese proverb things. I'm gonna copyright that!

SS, how did you get so blimmin wise? You always say the right thing :kisses2:

Toto, sorry to hear your news hun :grouphug:

If it helps, my kids were given a choice last year. I could go back to a job I hated, or quit and spend more time with them, the drawback being MUCH less money in the house. They insisted they wanted me to quit, my DH agreed, so that's what happened. 18 months on and we've not got much money, I'll be repaying my debts for decades, but we're happy and the kids have a much nicer mummy. I have been very lucky in that I got a job at my kids' school, so not only do I get every school holiday with them, but I'm there during the school day too :j

I asked my DD recently if we made the right decision, and she said that we definitely did.

You'll be OK hun, I'm sure.

Snaggles

Spud, thanks for telling us about your experiences. I think I'm going to be in a very similar position next year, and it's good to know it DOES have a positive impact on your children.

spud30

Snaggles wrote: »

Spud, thanks for telling us about your experiences. I think I'm going to be in a very similar position next year, and it's good to know it DOES have a positive impact on your children.

Snaggles, it was the best thing I could've done.

I didnt realise before just how stressed I was, but I must've been awful to live with.

Nowadays, I'm chilled. I dont have any work stress worth mentioning (we were blowing bubbles in school yesterday )

A huge bonus is that my DS is making vast improvements at school. I'm not sure if it's anything to do with having extra time with me, but I'm really pleased. He too has some learning difficulties - dyslexia/dyspraxia ish

At the end of the day, money isnt everything.

postingalwaysposting

Awww no everyone seems to have disappered for the night i suppose because the boards are so slow etc then thats why. Guess i shall come and join you all :rolleyes: