Couples app to keep finance split and fair

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AskAsk said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

I just can't imagine being in a relationship where one 'partner' was wealthy and one 'partner' only just making ends meet.  

If I was the well off 'partner' I'd feel like I was being incredibly selfish. 

No, I can't either, but I hope I haven't made out that is our situation.  

How is that NOT your situation?  

I don't believe it is my situation at all.
I'm not struggling? Or just making ends meet?
I said I don't even use half my salary? 

Then if you have a reasonably high wage and he earns 5-6 times that he is a very very high earner, and I actually think that makes it worse that he doesn't share his good fortune with you.  

But I don't need it? We live pretty simple lives really, no big houses, just a happy life. I can't think why I'd need his 'good fortune'. We equally treat each other, not just him with me, but me with him.  I don't really need anything financially from him.  We kept our own homes when we married, mine was worth around 1/4 to 1/3 of his, but we live in mine and my daughter stays in his. I didn't need the 'fancier' place...., 😂 . Maybe we are too laid back, I love my holidays but equally love going away in our camper and drinking wine from our camping mugs..... 🙈

reminds me, my husband and I both bought premium bonds recently.  my husband said that if either of us win the big £1m prize, we should give the other person £10k so that they share in the good fortune. 
i said no, i am keeping mine, lol 

You joke when you say that but my aunt, uncle and their granddaughter (about 12 at the time) used to but scratchcards every Saturday when they were looking after her, just one each and they'd each time agree they'd share whatever they won... obviously mostly nothing, occassionally a tenner which they just gave to her but on the last saturday before her 13th birthday she declared that she wasnt going to share and if she won it'd be hers... it really was the time my Aunt won £75,000 and true to her word they gave my cousin nothing.

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

I just can't imagine being in a relationship where one 'partner' was wealthy and one 'partner' only just making ends meet.  

If I was the well off 'partner' I'd feel like I was being incredibly selfish. 

No, I can't either, but I hope I haven't made out that is our situation.  

How is that NOT your situation?  

I don't believe it is my situation at all.
I'm not struggling? Or just making ends meet?
I said I don't even use half my salary? 

Then if you have a reasonably high wage and he earns 5-6 times that he is a very very high earner, and I actually think that makes it worse that he doesn't share his good fortune with you.  

But I don't need it? We live pretty simple lives really, no big houses, just a happy life. I can't think why I'd need his 'good fortune'. We equally treat each other, not just him with me, but me with him.  I don't really need anything financially from him.  We kept our own homes when we married, mine was worth around 1/4 to 1/3 of his, but we live in mine and my daughter stays in his. I didn't need the 'fancier' place...., 😂 . Maybe we are too laid back, I love my holidays but equally love going away in our camper and drinking wine from our camping mugs..... 🙈

If you have more disposable income than you need then its a moot point and it would be sharing for sharings sake.

Not trying to put the cat amongst the pigeons but if you "love holidays" be that a 5* safari in Kenya or campervan in Scotland with wine in a tin cup wouldn't you like more of them? (work to live rather than live to work et al). Surely if the monies were more distributed you could afford more time on hols?

I know as our household income increased the one expense (outside of switching rent for mortgage) that went up significantly was what we spent on holidays which represented both an increase in quality in some cases (though still use our tent) but also frequency.

AskAsk

Sandtree said:

AskAsk said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

I just can't imagine being in a relationship where one 'partner' was wealthy and one 'partner' only just making ends meet.  

If I was the well off 'partner' I'd feel like I was being incredibly selfish. 

No, I can't either, but I hope I haven't made out that is our situation.  

How is that NOT your situation?  

I don't believe it is my situation at all.
I'm not struggling? Or just making ends meet?
I said I don't even use half my salary? 

Then if you have a reasonably high wage and he earns 5-6 times that he is a very very high earner, and I actually think that makes it worse that he doesn't share his good fortune with you.  

But I don't need it? We live pretty simple lives really, no big houses, just a happy life. I can't think why I'd need his 'good fortune'. We equally treat each other, not just him with me, but me with him.  I don't really need anything financially from him.  We kept our own homes when we married, mine was worth around 1/4 to 1/3 of his, but we live in mine and my daughter stays in his. I didn't need the 'fancier' place...., 😂 . Maybe we are too laid back, I love my holidays but equally love going away in our camper and drinking wine from our camping mugs..... 🙈

reminds me, my husband and I both bought premium bonds recently.  my husband said that if either of us win the big £1m prize, we should give the other person £10k so that they share in the good fortune. 
i said no, i am keeping mine, lol 

You joke when you say that but my aunt, uncle and their granddaughter (about 12 at the time) used to but scratchcards every Saturday when they were looking after her, just one each and they'd each time agree they'd share whatever they won... obviously mostly nothing, occassionally a tenner which they just gave to her but on the last saturday before her 13th birthday she declared that she wasnt going to share and if she won it'd be hers... it really was the time my Aunt won £75,000 and true to her word they gave my cousin nothing.

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

I just can't imagine being in a relationship where one 'partner' was wealthy and one 'partner' only just making ends meet.  

If I was the well off 'partner' I'd feel like I was being incredibly selfish. 

No, I can't either, but I hope I haven't made out that is our situation.  

How is that NOT your situation?  

I don't believe it is my situation at all.
I'm not struggling? Or just making ends meet?
I said I don't even use half my salary? 

Then if you have a reasonably high wage and he earns 5-6 times that he is a very very high earner, and I actually think that makes it worse that he doesn't share his good fortune with you.  

But I don't need it? We live pretty simple lives really, no big houses, just a happy life. I can't think why I'd need his 'good fortune'. We equally treat each other, not just him with me, but me with him.  I don't really need anything financially from him.  We kept our own homes when we married, mine was worth around 1/4 to 1/3 of his, but we live in mine and my daughter stays in his. I didn't need the 'fancier' place...., 😂 . Maybe we are too laid back, I love my holidays but equally love going away in our camper and drinking wine from our camping mugs..... 🙈

If you have more disposable income than you need then its a moot point and it would be sharing for sharings sake.

Not trying to put the cat amongst the pigeons but if you "love holidays" be that a 5* safari in Kenya or campervan in Scotland with wine in a tin cup wouldn't you like more of them? (work to live rather than live to work et al). Surely if the monies were more distributed you could afford more time on hols?

I know as our household income increased the one expense (outside of switching rent for mortgage) that went up significantly was what we spent on holidays which represented both an increase in quality in some cases (though still use our tent) but also frequency.

that was what my husband said.  he said that i would be sorry if he won and i lost out 

reminds me of a newspaper story some years ago, where the husband won the lottery.  it was multi millions, but he wouldn't give any of it to his wife, even though they never had any agreement that he would.  anyhow, they ended up getting divorced over it as the wife felt her husband was greedy.  so a good fortune turned out to be a bad fortune.

74jax

Sandtree said:

AskAsk said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

I just can't imagine being in a relationship where one 'partner' was wealthy and one 'partner' only just making ends meet.  

If I was the well off 'partner' I'd feel like I was being incredibly selfish. 

No, I can't either, but I hope I haven't made out that is our situation.  

How is that NOT your situation?  

I don't believe it is my situation at all.
I'm not struggling? Or just making ends meet?
I said I don't even use half my salary? 

Then if you have a reasonably high wage and he earns 5-6 times that he is a very very high earner, and I actually think that makes it worse that he doesn't share his good fortune with you.  

But I don't need it? We live pretty simple lives really, no big houses, just a happy life. I can't think why I'd need his 'good fortune'. We equally treat each other, not just him with me, but me with him.  I don't really need anything financially from him.  We kept our own homes when we married, mine was worth around 1/4 to 1/3 of his, but we live in mine and my daughter stays in his. I didn't need the 'fancier' place...., 😂 . Maybe we are too laid back, I love my holidays but equally love going away in our camper and drinking wine from our camping mugs..... 🙈

reminds me, my husband and I both bought premium bonds recently.  my husband said that if either of us win the big £1m prize, we should give the other person £10k so that they share in the good fortune. 
i said no, i am keeping mine, lol 

You joke when you say that but my aunt, uncle and their granddaughter (about 12 at the time) used to but scratchcards every Saturday when they were looking after her, just one each and they'd each time agree they'd share whatever they won... obviously mostly nothing, occassionally a tenner which they just gave to her but on the last saturday before her 13th birthday she declared that she wasnt going to share and if she won it'd be hers... it really was the time my Aunt won £75,000 and true to her word they gave my cousin nothing.

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

74jax said:

onwards&upwards said:

I just can't imagine being in a relationship where one 'partner' was wealthy and one 'partner' only just making ends meet.  

If I was the well off 'partner' I'd feel like I was being incredibly selfish. 

No, I can't either, but I hope I haven't made out that is our situation.  

How is that NOT your situation?  

I don't believe it is my situation at all.
I'm not struggling? Or just making ends meet?
I said I don't even use half my salary? 

Then if you have a reasonably high wage and he earns 5-6 times that he is a very very high earner, and I actually think that makes it worse that he doesn't share his good fortune with you.  

But I don't need it? We live pretty simple lives really, no big houses, just a happy life. I can't think why I'd need his 'good fortune'. We equally treat each other, not just him with me, but me with him.  I don't really need anything financially from him.  We kept our own homes when we married, mine was worth around 1/4 to 1/3 of his, but we live in mine and my daughter stays in his. I didn't need the 'fancier' place...., 😂 . Maybe we are too laid back, I love my holidays but equally love going away in our camper and drinking wine from our camping mugs..... 🙈

If you have more disposable income than you need then its a moot point and it would be sharing for sharings sake.

Not trying to put the cat amongst the pigeons but if you "love holidays" be that a 5* safari in Kenya or campervan in Scotland with wine in a tin cup wouldn't you like more of them? (work to live rather than live to work et al). Surely if the monies were more distributed you could afford more time on hols?

I know as our household income increased the one expense (outside of switching rent for mortgage) that went up significantly was what we spent on holidays which represented both an increase in quality in some cases (though still use our tent) but also frequency.

Totally! I'm sure in a previous life I was born in sunnier climates.  
We have a camper, and use it at every opportunity, we just love the free-spirit life. We also buy as many extra holidays at work as we can. Our pooch is sadly not well 😔 and we can't leave him (we'll don't want too...) so the no flying hasn't been too bad, just lots of vanlife for us. I've just recently (as in last Friday!) stopped work - 1st time in 30+ years and plan 6 mths out (my mam died of Covid19 and I think I'm going through veryvery strange emotions 🙄) I'm doing various voluntary work, but see it as a holiday as its not paid....for now anyway.. 

jimmyjammy001

Use the split wise app it is very handy