Advice for son in rented accommodation via county council.

Weirdo109

tacpot12 said:

Thank you for the reply.
I have looked at sparerooms.com. Most prices are £600pcm for a single room shared bath/kitchen. Seems like an awful lot but it is something he will have to consider once the dust settles.
As you say his mental health is very important and he has colitis as well which all this stress is not helping. He had to go into hospital when they moved out due to the stress. 

Weirdo109

Morglin said:

Thank you for your reply.
As you say, everything is easy in hindsight.
We thought everything would be great for them when they got the flat and could have their own space and start a new life. This did not last long and my son, yes he has made many mistakes, but it takes two to tango.
Hopefully in time he will be in a better place both mentally and financially.

Weirdo109

silvercar said:

What sort of tenancy do they have? Is it one with a private landlord that the council have helped to facilitate or one with the council that the council have leased the property from a private landlord and then the council have given a tenancy to the couple?

Thank you for your reply
Not 100% sure as they dealt with it but I think its a private landlord that the council helped facilitate.
I know he gets a small amount of universal credit 25% of the rent, but he has to pay the rest and all bills.
AdrianC said:

John_ said:

...and you seem to have failed him in letting him get into this mess, but what’s done is done

He's a grown adult, and his mother has zero right to interfere in his life beyond offering a little well-meant advice that he's free to ignore.

deannatrois said:

Just another troll.  I apologise OP for the comments made.  They will not be the general view and should not have been made at all.

Thank you both, I was expecting some negativity which is understandable when only one side is given.
I've tried to be honest and say the blame lies with both of them in terms of their relationship.

MovingForwards

Have a look on Rightmove and Gumtree etc for flats shares as I've had a quick look, assuming you are still around E county, and they were coming in cheaper than you have found.

kingfisherblue

If he moves out, he may still be responsible for the rent - he needs to check the tenancy agreement.

If he is able to move out, he should remove his name from all bills (inform the utilities and other comapnies that he no longer lives there from X date), take final readings of gas and electricity to pay the final bills, and inform council tax that he has moved out. He should update his address with council tax, DVLA, insurance, etc straight away.

If she stays there, she won't have her bills paid, but instead will be responsible for paying them from any benefit entitlement.

Weirdo109

kingfisherblue said:

If he moves out, he may still be responsible for the rent - he needs to check the tenancy agreement.

If he is able to move out, he should remove his name from all bills (inform the utilities and other comapnies that he no longer lives there from X date), take final readings of gas and electricity to pay the final bills, and inform council tax that he has moved out. He should update his address with council tax, DVLA, insurance, etc straight away.

If she stays there, she won't have her bills paid, but instead will be responsible for paying them from any benefit entitlement.

Thank you for the reply.
That's some very helpful advice and I will pass it on to my son.

Weirdo109

MovingForwards said:

Have a look on Rightmove and Gumtree etc for flats shares as I've had a quick look, assuming you are still around E county, and they were coming in cheaper than you have found.

Thank you for replying.
He works in Basildon, the cheapest on gumtree seems to be about £450 and about same on rightmove.
Not sure if its suitable so he will have to look into into and work out costs compared to travel.
obviously it will be better for him to be closer but to pay that much for a room and not sure if baby would be allowed to stay. 
Lots to think about.

tacpot12

The accommodation he can afford initially may not be suitable to have a baby stay, but this is only a temporary situation. The baby will soon be a toddler and then staying overnight might be possible, and even fun for them. 

Weirdo109

One thing thats not been mentioned is the council not helping him.
Is this right in the modern gender equal rules of today. Why should he be the one to not be helped. He works hard and provides. He want to be a co-parent and that choice is being taken away from him.
He doesn't earn enough to buy a house and we can only help him so much financially without us getting into debt.

silvercar

Weirdo109 said:

One thing thats not been mentioned is the council not helping him.
Is this right in the modern gender equal rules of today. Why should he be the one to not be helped. He works hard and provides. He want to be a co-parent and that choice is being taken away from him.
He doesn't earn enough to buy a house and we can only help him so much financially without us getting into debt.

The state cannot afford to fund two homes for every child. They will make allowances in benefit calculations for a child to the parent who is the primary carer, doesn't matter which gender that parent is.