My spouse is buying a house without me

onwards&upwards

It’s not sensible, but loads of people do it, and loads of parents/grandparents actively encourage it.

pickledonionspaceraider

Of course it is morally reprehensible to anticipate an inheritance from a partners family.
Nobody should feel entitled to or anticipate an inheritance, and even more so, someone who is an in-law
It is very money grabbing
It literally makes me sick to think that after I am gone, an ex of one of my children, could put claim to money I have left my children.  Money I had earned with sweat and tears.  And then the EX uses it to fund their own life, meet someone else...stab my child in the back further by using my financial gift to my child, as a way to hurt them.
I would literally come back and haunt them, and it is a true disrespect for the diseased 

Fireflyaway

Legally I really don't know but morally it seems wrong. Your partner was left the money, not you. If you had a strong, happy marriage and they decided to purchase a house for you both to live in that's pretty normal, but from your description it seems you are living separate lives and may well divorce. If it was your inheritance of you suddenly won the lottery would you offer up a chunk of it to your partner? I'm currently separated from my husband and what he does with his money is his business and what I do with my money is mine. It comes across that you are just looking for a quick bit of money. 

elsien

So are they buying the house as part of separating from you?
In a friend's case (although they had just separated) when her parent passed away the court judged that the inheritance was not a marital asset. If your OH is buying the house to rent out and you stay together then yes it may potentially be considered a marital asset.
It can very much depend on the circumstances and the judge you get on the day if it goes that far. 

maman

I'm not disagreeing with the moral points but it would be useful to wait for a response without forming judgements on so little information. Who knows? The 'spouse' might be just contemplating putting the money into property because interest rates are so low.  It doesn't mean there's 'evil' intent on either side although one does wonder why OP asked the question.

onwards&upwards

maman said:

I'm not disagreeing with the moral points but it would be useful to wait for a response without forming judgements on so little information. Who knows? The 'spouse' might be just contemplating putting the money into property because interest rates are so low.  It doesn't mean there's 'evil' intent on either side although one does wonder why OP asked the question.

Absolutely, for all we know the OP could have been very close to the deceased family member and they’d have wanted her to share it, maybe she even cared for them.  We have literally no idea so no way to judge.

pphillips

I don't get the judgemental and moral lecturers of some of the posters on here, what is it about the nature of marriage that they don't understand? Some of them may not be married or may not agree with marriage but that's frankly irrelevant to the question that was asked.

puk999

pickledonionspaceraider said:

true disrespect for the diseased 

What if they died of natural causes? 

Comms69

pphillips said:

I don't get the judgemental and moral lecturers of some of the posters on here, what is it about the nature of marriage that they don't understand? Some of them may not be married or may not agree with marriage but that's frankly irrelevant to the question that was asked.

what is it about the nature of marriage that they don't understand-

Still able to pass a moral opinion on a situation without the necessity to involve the legal aspects. 

It's legal to have affairs, still morally wrong for the vast majority of people.

pickledonionspaceraider

I'm married, and I still think vying for a bit of cash that was not left to you...is morally bankrupt.