My spouse is buying a house without me

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My spouse has inherited a large amount of money and has taken out a mortgage to buy a house. We rent at the moment. We been having ongoing issues with out marriage and are sleeping apart. It is amicable at present. Although a lot of passive aggression. Do I have any claim on the house when they move out 🤔 or worse if divorce proceedings occur 

kazwookie

How long have you been married for?

jackieblack

Legally?
Or morally?

How long have you been married?

[Deleted User]

6 years married, 9 years living together 

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kazwookie said:

How long have you been married for?

6 yrs

Comms69

So in effect you just want to take some of their inheritance? 

This isnt money that you got as a happily married couple.

burlingtonfl6

Personally I think it is morally wrong to try and claim the inheritance of a partner and it shows what you really care about the most..............money.

tacpot12

And yet the legal position is that you do have a claim to the money/house. While you are married, even if unhappily, anything that comes into the marriage is a marital asset. 

I think we need to be careful about saying people as only caring about money. Many people become extremely uptight about money when there is the prospect of them having none. We don't know much about the OP's situation; a divorce could leave them in a very difficult place financially. 

The best move financially will be to find a way forward to live together happily. If that isn't possible, an amicable divorce will be the next best move. Some compromise will be necessary to get divorced amicably. 

Comms69

tacpot12 said:

And yet the legal position is that you do have a claim to the money/house. While you are married, even if unhappily, anything that comes into the marriage is a marital asset. 

I think we need to be careful about saying people as only caring about money. Many people become extremely uptight about money when there is the prospect of them having none. We don't know much about the OP's situation; a divorce could leave them in a very difficult place financially. 

The best move financially will be to find a way forward to live together happily. If that isn't possible, an amicable divorce will be the next best move. Some compromise will be necessary to get divorced amicably. 

Yes it could, i just find it morally reprehensible when these kinds of situations happen. Legally you are correct, but being legally right, can still leave people to make judgements about character

Malthusian

Comms69 said:

tacpot12 said:

And yet the legal position is that you do have a claim to the money/house. While you are married, even if unhappily, anything that comes into the marriage is a marital asset. 

I think we need to be careful about saying people as only caring about money. Many people become extremely uptight about money when there is the prospect of them having none. We don't know much about the OP's situation; a divorce could leave them in a very difficult place financially. 

The best move financially will be to find a way forward to live together happily. If that isn't possible, an amicable divorce will be the next best move. Some compromise will be necessary to get divorced amicably. 

Yes it could, i just find it morally reprehensible when these kinds of situations happen. Legally you are correct, but being legally right, can still leave people to make judgements about character

Judgments on zero evidence. The OP may have made financial sacrifices in anticipation of being able to benefit from their spouse's inheritance.

If it was the OP's spouse posting here they would probably be told not to buy a house and divorce as soon as possible; it is possible that the courts would take the view that the inheritance was not an asset of the marriage if it had not been intermingled with the joint finances and the OP's needs could be met without a share of it.

If they go ahead with the house purchase and then divorce, I have no idea what will happen, it will be a matter for their solicitors.

The longer the marriage goes on after the inheritance, the higher the risk that it becomes viewed as a marital asset.

Comms69

Malthusian said:

Comms69 said:

tacpot12 said:

And yet the legal position is that you do have a claim to the money/house. While you are married, even if unhappily, anything that comes into the marriage is a marital asset. 

I think we need to be careful about saying people as only caring about money. Many people become extremely uptight about money when there is the prospect of them having none. We don't know much about the OP's situation; a divorce could leave them in a very difficult place financially. 

The best move financially will be to find a way forward to live together happily. If that isn't possible, an amicable divorce will be the next best move. Some compromise will be necessary to get divorced amicably. 

Yes it could, i just find it morally reprehensible when these kinds of situations happen. Legally you are correct, but being legally right, can still leave people to make judgements about character

Judgments on zero evidence. The OP may have made financial sacrifices in anticipation of being able to benefit from their spouse's inheritance.

If it was the OP's spouse posting here they would probably be told not to buy a house and divorce as soon as possible; it is possible that the courts would take the view that the inheritance was not an asset of the marriage if it had not been intermingled with the joint finances and the OP's needs could be met without a share of it.

If they go ahead with the house purchase and then divorce, I have no idea what will happen, it will be a matter for their solicitors.

The longer the marriage goes on after the inheritance, the higher the risk that it becomes viewed as a marital asset.

And how is that not morally reprehensible? And i dont mean spouse's inheritance, i mean anyone who anticipates an inheritance