Taxis 2008 diary..here we go

taxi73

Well I'm a bit shell shocked to say the least...phoned DD to see what she was up to and DGS is being naughty as 3 year olds do...shes threatening to put him in care and is really serious I think.!!!!..this has really upset me and she then gave me the news that her partner has been seeing the DR for a lump in his throat that they thought was an infection or glandular fever ..he has had antibiotics and had a blood test...he got his results wednesday and he has to go for a biopsy on it and a scan...to see if its cancer..this was wednesday..he got a letter thursday morning and has to go in this monday..thats so quick...I hope he hasn't got cancer....it would be such devastating news!!!!...this is whats maybe st her off with DGS is there any help that social services may give her..I wonder....I'm upset for her DP and my DGS and DD....
DGS is only just 3,DD 21 in a few weeks and her DP is 32 in a few weeks.
I just feel so gutted....I don't know what to do.
Went to town and paid CC mulled around the shops and didn't spend any money and just came home.

stressed.mum

Taxi I'm really sorry to hear things are not too good.

Is your DGS just being a "normal" 3 year old or is she concerned it maybe something more. Ignore this is you think I'm out of order bur I ask as my son has Aspergers syndrome and at 3 was when we started to have most problems with him ( and did phone social services when he tried to strangle his sister)

She is probably so worried about her DP that she can't cope with any thing else so even if he is just misbehaving a little she's probably finding it hard goiong. Is there anyway you could have him for a couple of days to give her a break? I know you work and everything so tell me to mind my own if I'm speaking out of turn

I hope things sort themselves out

Thinking of you all and fingers crossed for a good outcome monday

stressed xxxx

taxi73

Thanks stressed mum...she says its him being really naughty but I don't find him bad at all..I think its a case of him being a normal 3 year old and nothing more she seems to have calmed a little now but says shes not cut out to be a mum as shes tried it for 3 years and is no good at..she usually is a good mum...I think its to do with her partner.I got the day wrong sorry its tuesday.
I don't think having him for a couple of days will help as she feels trapped if you know what I mean and this will make her want to be free even more I will have to keep an eye on her...
I don't know what to do.he won't be going in care if I can help it but maybe she could do with a social worker...I don't know.

In_Search_Of_Me

Will pm you....

taxi73

thanks ISOM

stressed.mum

To be honest Taxi I found social services no help at all. The came round, assessed my need told me the girls and I and my Ds were all at risk from DSand his behaviour - then wrote back and told me there was nothing I could do. Maybe if she approaches her doctor or HV they may be able to do something. Do you think she may be suffering from depression or heading that way?
Being a mum is the hardest job in the world, and she is still so young - all you can do is remind her what a good job she is doing, and hopefully she will come through this difficult tim

Thinking of you all


stressed xxxxx

Keeping_Motivated

Hi Taxi

Just catching up with your diary as I always do and really feel for you as its awful to watch loved ones struggle. It must be hard for your daughter and also your DGS as even though he is only 3 he will be picking up the negative vibes which may make the behaviour worse so an obvious viscous circle.

Just wanted to say don't under estimate the smalll things you could do to help. Do you live near? If so after a hard day like your daughter sounds like she has had with him the bedtime routine just feels so hard, could you go round and do the story time and settling to bed and then have a cuppa and a chat with your daughter? It doesn't seem much in the scale of things but small things at times like this really help.

Take care

taxi73

ISOM ... i've replied thanks x
Stressed I do think it could be depression ..I asked her to have words with HV but she said that they'd tell her to stick him on the naughty step like she does.
I'll probably bring him back here for a break.

taxi73

That sounds a good idea about me putting him to bed though he just goes to bed by himself at 7pm and usually sleeps through but hes been coming down she says...so its a long day...some of it could be the shock ..I don't know how I would handle the situation if the shoe was on the other foot so to speak.

taxi73

Right just had a word with DD who seems a lot better now and is going to phone her HV monday as shes convinced that DGS has ADHD or something similar.She may be onto something as he has can not still still..its totally impossible..if you sit him down he only manages a few minutes but can't stit still ..he has to fidget.He does not watch tv at all...hes very loving and loves to give kisses and cuddles...so I don't think he has ..can't remember ...oh yes autism...he has boundless energy but I just think thats normal..she says hes started throwing himself on the floor...
So crisis over for now...shes just gone shopping and will phone me when she gets back..thanks for the support...