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Doshwaster

ushjr said:

I have a cooked meal for lunch anyway. Sandwiches are no good, you need about 20 of them to fill you up. The size of the meal I cook at home is far bigger than any meals they serve at restaurants. Sometimes when I go for a meal after work I don't feel like I've eaten enough.

Sounds like the reason you are a "slow eater" is that your portions are huge. How is your health in general?

sharpe106

20 sandwiches to fill you up? That is more then a loaf of bread before you even put anything in it. 

katsu

I would feed two adults on one of your meals being 150g of pasta and 500g mince. I wouldn't use as much as 500g either.  

That's not really important though,  what is most important is maybe trying to get help to deal with your feelings about routines etc. Maybe contact some local therapists and see if you can have a chat and see if they think they could help you.  

Annisele

Well, specifically on the sandwiches point, if you're talking about the silly little teaspoon sized sandwiches some companies serve at meetings I'm not surprised they don't fill you up. But the sandwiches are really not the issue here.

It sounds as though the coping strategies you've developed on your own have served you well in hte past. But they're not serving you well now, because they're not compatible with a huge number of jobs. So it would likely be extremely beneficial to you to learn some new coping strategies.

You might be able to find a therapist who could help you, but I also think it would be worth contacting your GP. If you suspect autism, you can't rule that out with an online test. And it's entirely possible that you don't have autism, but do have something else your GP could help you with. I don't think it would hurt to talk to them.

Grumpy_chap

The OP takes very generous portion sizes.  Is that why it can take 2 hours to eat dinner?

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gettingtheresometime

OP
I'd also consider batch cooking as well as using a slow cooker, provided you've got the freezer space. All you need do is decide what you're having in the morning, get it out of the freezer so it can defrost throughout the day ready to warm up in the night.

however I do think you need to look at your portion size. If that Spag Bol was for you alone then that would be a mountain of food. As a comparison I make spag bol using 750g mince, 1 onion, mushrooms, 1 tin of tomatoes & I get 4 meals out of that.

pjcox2005

I would say take the job, in part given the need to pay bills but also I think it may be harder for you to be back in employment if you take a period out based on what you're positing. That's obviously just my take from your posts so you may feel different to this.
Daft question, if they've approached you, then can you ask them to flex your hours to start an hour earlier. Perhaps the role means you can't as working for others, but many employers are a lot more flexible now on start times.

TBagpuss

I would go for the job - unless you have enough in savings that you can afford to be unemployed for 6 months or longer. We are in a recession and there are likely to be a lot more redundancies as the furlough payments end, it's not a good time to be too choosy about what you do.

As others have suggested, I would also suggest that you think about practical options. For instance:
Batch cooking & freezing meals. Cook large quantities of things likes Spg.Bol. Curries, stews etc. Freeze them in individual portions and then you can simply re-heat. Most things you can take out of the freezer the night before or when you leave for work, and defrost in the fridge, or if you have a microwave use that. Then you only need to re-heat and to cook you pasta / rice or potato to go with the meal, letting you cook/eat much more quickly - I do this , and it means I can be eating within about 15 minutes of walking through the door, including time to get changed out of y work clothes and pet the cat!  I agree that if you don't get in until 6 or 7, and then cook from scratch, it does get pretty late before you can eat.

Also -do consider looking at your eating habits more generally. A normal portion of spaghetti is 75g,for instance - obviously your eating habits are your own business, but it does sound as though part of the issue might be the amount you are eating, and that may have other health implications than how much time you need to eat! 

superbigal

I laughed when i read the OP.  Skipped to the end and reminded me of this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OYbhVHZMco