Greedy Sibling

Bornwild

Savvy_Sue said:

What provision has been made for your mother? It just seems really odd for everything to be divided between the three of you with no mention for your mother, who is presumably still living in the house?

My mum and dad got divorced over 15 years ago, where did i write my mum still lives in the house?
It is my fathers house what he bought 9 years ago and my brother 30, lived in with my dad and my brother still does live there,  me and my sister left home years ago, and mum has her own place but she always stayed close friends with my father

Savvy_Sue

Apologies, I misunderstood comments about your mum taking his side and your brother offering her things of your dad's. 

unholyangel

If you are a residuary beneficiary then you'll be entitled to see the accounts. So expenses & sale values of the chattels. 

As for the solicitors email, tbh I would probably just reply stating that as the will was only made a month before his passing (if I've understood your post correctly) and he chose to split it equally that he either did not think the brother had been a greater help to him, that the brother had already had recognition for this via rent free lodgings/whatever else or that such matters should not influence the split of his estate. But in any event, the will is a clear expression of his wishes and those wishes should be honoured. 

I can't understand your brother's logic. And I say this as someone who is the primary carer for my parents. If my parents want something done, its me thats asked/does it as I live closer. It's never even crossed my mind that I should get more of their estate. Yeah sure it would be nice if siblings helped out more but it is what it is. Keeping their home (the home I grew up in) is also important to me but we've all (parents & children) discussed it and worst case scenario (care costs perhaps), I'd pay full market rate just to keep it. But that's because it's the emotional value of the property that is important to me rather than the money value - while your brother it seems to be the opposite. 

t0rt0ise

I can imagine the brother is concerned because if the house and goods are sold, he will be homeless. He's going about it the wrong way but to my mind you need to understand his position and try to work something out with him.