Fair or not fair?

northwalesd

When I was single and used to holiday with friends of mine who were a couple I always paid half the cost of anywhere we stayed (that had a fixed price like a cottage).

Comms69

northwalesd said:

When I was single and used to holiday with friends of mine who were a couple I always paid half the cost of anywhere we stayed (that had a fixed price like a cottage).

That's generally what I would do too. 

rach_k

If he wants a double room, he needs to pay 50%.  Then his wife can change her mind if she wants.  

I'd suggest that if he is sure she doesn't want to come and he doesn't want to pay 50%, you look for a place with 1 double and 1 single (or 3 doubles!) and split it a third per person.  

Savvy_Sue

rach_k said:

If he wants a double room, he needs to pay 50%.  Then his wife can change her mind if she wants.  

I'd suggest that if he is sure she doesn't want to come and he doesn't want to pay 50%, you look for a place with 1 double and 1 single (or 3 doubles!) and split it a third per person.  

HE should do the looking!

i_want_to_believe

I would cry off also, then suggest a 50/50 split between your husband and him, then, when he has paid up, change your mind and re-invite yourself!... Jobs a good 'un!

elsien

Petriix said:

Maybe suggest that he brings someone else along to get his money's worth? Especially if he isn't 'close' to his wife.

Alternatively as you would be paying for three people, you get to choose the third one to share his room with him. Then find the hobby related possibly slightly smelly dullard that everyone runs a mile when they see coming and proffer the spare place in the double room to them.

maman

Agreed he should pay 50% of cottage rental. It's a bit like the cost per room in a hotel. Similarly, he'd pay less for food if it's self catering so that's where his saving comes into it. 

pickledonionspaceraider

Sorry to be late to the party on this one - but I agree with you OP - the husband should still pay 50%
I mean you have made a verbal plan with them, and it is THEM who have changed their end of it.
50% or he is taking the mick. You should not have to subsidise her mind changing

MrsPorridge

He should pay 50% - I would love to go away and have DH spend his days fishing/golfing so I can get on with my sewing! 

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Yeah, can see both sides too.  On balance though and reading others' opinions if he wants a double room he needs to pay the double room price.