Going from flat to shared accommodation

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Ryzen26 said:

avoidtheupsidedownbottles said:

I would echo others' warnings about houseshares, Ryzen26.  If you have MH issues, how do feel about having to share kitchen facilities with others?  Personally I hated it as some people would spend all night in there and you couldn't get to use the cooker or the sink without them in your way.  It can be good if you get considerate like-minded housemates but that is unusual IME.  If you do want to try that route, I'd suggest getting a contract where you can get out after no more than three months if it proves to be a bad move.

My way of thinking is the grass is greener but you may be right. Thanks for your advice

I see you also made another post in another part of the forum regarding your MH issue and your current housing situation affecting your state of mind. Would you disclose this with a landlord if looking for a room to rent? I'm only saying this because if something were to happen in the house or say it affected the general household and you were asked to leave because you hadn't disclosed this you would then have lost your council house and be in a dire situation. I don't know your current state but from your post in another part of forum you did say you were in a bad way. How do you know things will improve being around other people. Are you better with company and do you generally get on with people or can things irritate you. What are the pros and cons? 

KxMx

Please speak to your medical team who can discuss with you the pros and cons. 
Giving up a secure tenancy is a massive undertaking and not one to be taken lightly, or IMO at all. 

Ryzen26

Ok thanks Kim and Dave I will think long and hard. 

Robbie64

If you are in a council or Housing Association property could you not speak to your housing officer to see if it is possible to move to somewhere you would prefer? Most social housing associations run a house / flat exchange scheme. I wouldn't advise giving up a secure social housing property to house share if you have mental health issues. As has been posted, if it didn't work out you would be putting yourself in a very vulnerable position.

Ryzen26

I hate where I am this is why I want to move so badly. The housing officer wont help unfortunately. 

poppy12345

Ryzen26 said:

I hate where I am this is why I want to move so badly.

Sorry but i have to agree with the others here. Moving to a house share could be the worst thing you'll ever do and could potentially be worse than where you're living now.

My daughter suffers from mental health and her long term relationship broke down about 18 months ago and she moved into a house share because there was no other option at the time. Thankfully because she was a student at the time, she only signed the agreement for 9 months. She hated everything about it and was glad to move out 9 months later. It made her mental health so much worse.

Ryzen26

Thanks poppy again for your advice
 Maybe I should look at other options closely...

Spoonie_Turtle

I couldn't remember if it was you or another poster but yes, you did say your thinking is that the grass is greener. The whole point of that saying is that the grass always *looks* greener on the other side of the fence, but then it turns out not to be.
https://writingexplained.org/idiom-dictionary/grass-is-always-greener

Not that this helps your situation at all, but just reminding you that the saying is what it is for a very good reason!

Ryzen26

Thanks spoonie you are right in some ways.

soolin

Your other threads suggest you struggle with what you perceive as noisy and antisocial neighbours and I fail to see how sharing a house with others is going to help at all, like the others have said please don’t do anything without speaking to your MH team first. If you find people generally to be noisy how on earth are you going to manage living with them and not just next door? Other people will be in your kitchen, your eating area - they might be smoking in the garden directly by your window and you will have to live with them, this sounds li,e a very bad idea for your MH.