Do I have to give defendant my bank details?

bradders1983

Cherry.N said:

The judgement didn't state that he gets to choose the method of payment either, it just said do not send cash through the post unless registered. 
You not currently opening your mail then? 
Think I will decide what's a faff for myself, but thanks for input.

Yes I am opening my mail. However given I am a fit 36 year old who has probably already had the virus, as has the other person in the house, I am not bothered. 

He is offering a perfectly valid method of payment which you are prepared to reject. I assume he can report this back to the court as him willing to pay and you refusing. Not everyone has chequebooks these days and postal orders will add 12.5% to his bill which, no matter what your opinion is of him and his actions, is unreasonable.

zagubov

Cherry.N said:

The judgement didn't state that he gets to choose the method of payment either, it just said do not send cash through the post unless registered. 
You not currently opening your mail then? 
Think I will decide what's a faff for myself, but thanks for input.

Yes I'm opening my mail, as I reasonably expect it to be sent by people who I'm not being awkward with.

I'm a microbiologist who remembers the great story of a lab who wrote a letter to a second lab who'd discovered a virus that grows on particular bacteria, asking them for a sample of the viruses.

The second lab sent refusals as they wanted to print more details first. The first lab ran out of patience and took the rejection letters, washed them and filtered the washings and spread it on a plate of host bacteria and by this method isolated the virus from the letter refusing it.

Your complainant sounds awkward enough I wouldn't want to incentivise him to serve his revenge cold.

Cherry.N

bradders1983
My partner and I have also already had the virus (not probably, but confirmed). Be careful with your assumptions though, there's no current scientific evidence that confirms you can't get it again.
'I'm being unreasonable'. .you can shove that comment, I have been unbelievably tolerant with the scumbag that conned me.
Are you related by any chance??

bradders1983

Just because I am not telling a stranger on a forum what he wants to hear I must be related to someone who owes money to said stranger?

What bizarre logic.

Merely saying your actions could be construed as refusing payments. If you want to go down that road, then that is up to you. Dont come back on here in a few months moaning that the debtor isnt paying you if you carry on with that course of action.

Again a reminder your bank details would be on the bottom of every single cheque you write (assuming you still use them). Why should the defendent send you cheques with his bank details on them? Maybe YOU could use them in a nefarious way, eh?

Cherry.N

Wrong. .I'm not looking for anyone to agree with me, I'm grateful for all input and ideas. I just don't understand rude people, no need for it.
I don't understand your logic either, assuming I'm being unreasonable after being hit by someone who was driving illegally, agreeing to not go through insurers because he gave me a sob story, being lied to, having to walk a long care round at night for 3 days as my car was out of action and paying out for his selfishness. This has cost me more than £700 ...yep, I'm unreasonable for expecting him to pay a few quid more. Do me a favour.
I'm a she by the way, not a he.

bradders1983

See, you are not going to be tolerant with him because of the past history between you.

Lets put it another way which takes the emotion out of it as an example. If your energy provider said the only way to pay them was to send them a cheque (cost of a stamp, envelope, visit to a postbox, may have lost cheque book years ago) or to send them a postal order which would add 12.5% onto your bill, would you say they were being unreasonable?

Cherry.N

Agreed. I am not being tolerant now as could kick myself for being so since the incident 3 months ago.
Yes, I would say my energy provider was being unreasonable and would move on to another. But if they all demanded the same method of payment, I'd bite the bullet and order myself a new cheque book. It's not hard to do.
I just want a tiny victory here in something that's made me lose a bit of faith in peoples morals.

bradders1983

If you have a risk of a court deciding you are refusing perfectly acceptable payment methods, it isnt the time to be pedantic.

You already won. Accept the money ANY method. There is nothing else to win.

Cherry.N

Yeh, I guess so.

Socajam

Revenge:
The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.
Revenge proves its own executioner.
Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.
Often those that criticise others reveal what he/she himself lacks.