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l_ram001

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Marvel1

I'm going to be blunt: break-up and do it alone.

silverwhistle

I don't normally comment on relationship issues, but having seen your thread title thought I'd stop by, and as no-one else has commented thought I'd say something.

As to the thread title my immediate thought was "that can't continue", not if you want 'relationship' and 'future' in the same sentence.

In the body of your post you raise more questions for any neutral observer: "doesn't fully support this role", doesn't save and "earns more money than me". There are some very obvious questions that anybody would ask reading those statements: "Why?".

On a more practical level, have you seen his budget: where _is_ the income disappearing to? More questions than answers I'm afraid, but you need to be asking a few too.

lika_86

Ignoring everything else, if he doesn't support your dream job then he's not the right man for you.

onwards&upwards

lika_86 said:

Ignoring everything else, if he doesn't support your dream job then he's not the right man for you.

Absolutely this

DCFC79

If someone cant be 100% supportive of your new job then maybe you need to reconsider where the relationship is going.
What is the new job ?
Do you know why he isn't fully supportive of the new job ?

l_ram001

DCFC79 said:

If someone cant be 100% supportive of your new job then maybe you need to reconsider where the relationship is going.
What is the new job ?
Do you know why he isn't fully supportive of the new job ?

The new job is within the law enforcement and because of his past. 

l_ram001

silverwhistle said:

I don't normally comment on relationship issues, but having seen your thread title thought I'd stop by, and as no-one else has commented thought I'd say something.

As to the thread title my immediate thought was "that can't continue", not if you want 'relationship' and 'future' in the same sentence.

In the body of your post you raise more questions for any neutral observer: "doesn't fully support this role", doesn't save and "earns more money than me". There are some very obvious questions that anybody would ask reading those statements: "Why?".

On a more practical level, have you seen his budget: where _is_ the income disappearing to? More questions than answers I'm afraid, but you need to be asking a few too.

Thank you for the response, it upsets me very much to understand it but I fully get where you are coming from. In my heart I didn’t and still don’t want to lose him but my career comes first and I have to put myself first. My worth is more important to me. 

sheramber

 He won't change . Could you live with him continuing as he does?

l_ram001

sheramber said:

 He won't change . Could you live with him continuing as he does?

No I couldn’t. I wouldn’t be constantly waiting on him to sort his life out so I could have mine.

gettingtheresometime

When you say law enforcement do you actually mean you'll be a police officer?

if that's right then to be perfectly blunt his inability is going to be the least of your worries about your relationship lasting.

My son's a police officer and every time we want something as simple as a family Sunday lunch we have to get the calendars out to try and coordinate a date. We've accepted that there are weeks when we don't see him as he's off in the week when we're in work and he's in work when we're off on the weekend.

will your partner be willing to accept that? Because if he can't even get a grip on his spending will he tolerate this work pattern? 

Btw are you American?