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Caring for live-in daughter on PIP. How much should she contribute?
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One of my daughters has multiple health problems and had to return home to be cared for. After a couple of years we finally applied for benefits and she has now been granted enhanced PIP for 10 years, as well as the full UC payment. Her care does cost a little more than average because she needs special products and gluten-free food. When she lived with us once before, I found it impossible to know how much to ask her for. There are so many unknowns, like an added heater being plugged in night and morning (no central heating), extra washing etc. We just had a stairlift fitted for her, and she will be paying something towards that with her back pay. But she needs a new bed, and a new sofa a bit earlier than I would have bought one, and has been assuming she'll have to save up to buy these - of course I said no. It's so complicated! I've always been inclined to help all the kids out and overlook costs, but this is permanent, so we need an agreement. Thinking about money panics her too, so I need to be kind, gentle and clear. She's not grasping or controlling, we just neither of us have a clue. Does anyone have any experience/thoughts please?