Couples who live separately

laurajane6486

Those of you who have replied who live with partners/spouses...
Are you currently spending time at home in different rooms? Eating separately one in the kitchen one in the living room, one watching TV in the living room while one watches TV in the bedroom, one sleeping on the sofa or in a spare bed while the other sleeps in the main bedroom for example?

diggingdude

laurajane6486 said:

Those of you who have replied who live with partners/spouses...
Are you currently spending time at home in different rooms? Eating separately one in the kitchen one in the living room, one watching TV in the living room while one watches TV in the bedroom, one sleeping on the sofa or in a spare bed while the other sleeps in the main bedroom for example?

What are you actually trying to find out here? If people are living together they are living together. It is called being part of a household.  It is why if one person in a household has to isolate then so does the other person.  You and you're partner are not part of a household and as such you should be staying away from each other, especially when you work in a role where you could be infecting the most at risk in society.  I'm a social worker and am still being expected to see people (with no protective equipment). When i am not working or buying food, I am at home alone.  I hate it but it is for the greater good.  Imagine if we all broke the rules just a little bit

p00hsticks

laurajane6486 said:

Those of you who have replied who live with partners/spouses...
Are you currently spending time at home in different rooms? Eating separately one in the kitchen one in the living room, one watching TV in the living room while one watches TV in the bedroom, one sleeping on the sofa or in a spare bed while the other sleeps in the main bedroom for example?

For what it's worth, we're 'social distancing' even from each other - keeping six foot apart and sleeping in separate roooms.  And we are not  leaving the house AT ALL apart from to obtaining essential  food (probably won't need to go for another week) or medical supplies (have a prescriotion to be collected in a few days) and a brief walk (separately) in the local vicinity every few days.

And if either of us started showing symptoms then we would be fully self-isolating from each other as well as the outside world - living, sleeping and eating completely sparately from the other.

But what me and my partner do within our own shared house is really immaterial, and is not like your situation.

The instructions are clear.

You say you are a 'professional educated adult' .

Then you KNOW what you should be doing.

From the fact that you keep coming back with what seem to be more and more excuses / what ifs / what about / I get the impression that you've made up your mind to ignore what we are all being told and nothing we say is going to change your mind.

That's your decision to live with and hopefully not someone elses to die as a result of.

Up to you.

I'm out

elsien

laurajane6486 said:

Caroline247 I missed your reply until now. It’s hard isn’t it. Basically penalised for living separately. You stay well and safe too.
Bradders1983 😳 but true 

So the children with separated parents who live between two different homes currently (eg live with mum mostly but spend Wednesday evenings and weekends with dad) will they now only be able to live with one or the other parent for the next few weeks to avoid the unnecessary travel between the two homes?

My sibling is in that situation. And yes, he fully expects his children not to be able to visit for the three weeks. Which is probably far more difficult than your circumstances, but needs must. 

sleepymans

I’m in a similar situation to the OP, although my partner of 9 years lives 50 miles away.
we kissed goodbye on Sunday with an inkling that we would both be in lockdown before next weekend. What will make the next few lonely weeks bearable is ensuring we can’t infect each other at least.....and how wonderful our eventual reunion will be.

As someone else remarked......at least we haven’t been sent to a foreign land to kill or be killed, for months or years.

Lets be strong and be thankful for FaceTime, phone calls and a shared determination to lessen the spread of the virus to our loved ones and the rest of the community.

laurajane6486

There is no need for anyone to be rude. I have only been trying to find the actual, government advice on this issue which hasn’t been available until today.
As of today the official advice from the government is to spend the next few weeks entirely apart OR to move in together. So the choice is ours to make. Either is fine according to the government, but going between both houses is not, which we will now respect.  This is the kind of information I was looking for, not abuse from keyboard warriors for just trying to find out the correct advice.

laurajane6486

Oh and elsein, the government has now decided it is ok for children to move between parents houses so your sibling should be able to see their children 

calcotti

This seems to answer the original question
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/mar/24/budding-couples-in-uk-told-to-live-together-or-stay-apart

“If the two halves of a couple are currently in separate households, ideally they should stay in those households,” Harries said.

“The alternative might be that, for quite a significant period going forwards, they should test the strength of their relationship and decide whether one wishes to be permanently resident in another household.”

Takmon

laurajane6486 said:

There is no need for anyone to be rude. I have only been trying to find the actual, government advice on this issue which hasn’t been available until today.
As of today the official advice from the government is to spend the next few weeks entirely apart OR to move in together. So the choice is ours to make. Either is fine according to the government, but going between both houses is not, which we will now respect.  This is the kind of information I was looking for, not abuse from keyboard warriors for just trying to find out the correct advice.

It's quite worrying how you both work for the NHS and thought it actually might be acceptable to still travel and see each other when it's very clear households need to be kept separate. You should have already known that people must be kept apart as separate as possible; imagine if everyone thought it was alright to travel between just two households it would then spread everywhere very easily!. 

Also this isn't about people being "keyboard warriors" people like you need to be told sternly that it is NOT OK to ignore the advice otherwise the restrictions will keep getting worse and worse and more people will die. I would be happy to say this to anyone face to face and i have last week and i would hope that other people will do this too because some people seem to think it's not an issue if they "just do this".

It's people like you and your partner why they now have to use the police and fines to enforce this because when it was just recommendations people didn't care. 

7Phil

laurajane6486 said:

As of today the official advice from the government is to spend the next few weeks entirely apart OR to move in together. 

Remember you need to exercise at least once per day. No limits on how long you exercise for or how far you go.
You may also need to drive to find a quiet location away from the public to exercise and besides, everyone needs a mental break away from home. No gatherings more than 2 people.

Read in to that what you like.