Couples who live separately

laurajane6486

Caroline247 I missed your reply until now. It’s hard isn’t it. Basically penalised for living separately. You stay well and safe too.
Bradders1983 😳 but true 

So the children with separated parents who live between two different homes currently (eg live with mum mostly but spend Wednesday evenings and weekends with dad) will they now only be able to live with one or the other parent for the next few weeks to avoid the unnecessary travel between the two homes?

General_Grant

laurajane6486 said:

Caroline247 I missed your reply until now. It’s hard isn’t it. Basically penalised for living separately. You stay well and safe too.
Bradders1983 😳 but true 

So the children with separated parents who live between two different homes currently (eg live with mum mostly but spend Wednesday evenings and weekends with dad) will they now only be able to live with one or the other parent for the next few weeks to avoid the unnecessary travel between the two homes?

Perhaps people in that situation should start their own thread.
You are not in that position.  Don't try making the analogy.

laurajane6486

General_grant why not?
It’s similar reason for travel...seeing someone who does not normally reside with you.
 It’s not essential. It involves needing more petrol. Neighbours might see it and decide they’re going to do the same. As everyone has suggested Skype/FaceTime/phone calls could substitute in the interim. Why is it so different and therefore not worthy of an analogy?

diggingdude

I'm not really sure what the purpose of this post is?  You have made up your mind on what you want to do.  Many will understand/sympathise but no one will condone it

laurajane6486

Diggingdude. I haven’t made up my mind at all, still. Hence my post. I’m now just interested if the same rules will apply regarding coparenting children.

Jeremy535897

Cheer up, it might only be for 3 weeks. It's not as bad as one of you seeing the other go off to the Western Front. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

laurajane6486

Requiring the support of someone you love during such uncertain, overwhelming times, especially when faced with the stress of working for the NHS during this crisis is nothing like “going for a jolly”. No one is having a tantrum. We are professional, educated adults in our 30s and 40s who are trying to make a decision as to whether seeing each other makes us more risky to the rest of the population than couples who live together full time and spend most of their time together. 

Of course children have to be looked after. But if one parent isn’t currently working (already unemployed, having been made unemployed due to Coronavirus or just not currently at work because they’re not a key worker) then the children could reasonably spend all of the next few weeks with that parent rather than being passed between the two. I just wondered if that’s what separated parents would be intending to do in that situation to minimise the risk, to help us make the right decision.

onwards&upwards

laurajane6486 said:

Requiring the support of someone you love during such uncertain, overwhelming times, especially when faced with the stress of working for the NHS during this crisis is nothing like “going for a jolly”. No one is having a tantrum. We are professional, educated adults in our 30s and 40s who are trying to make a decision as to whether seeing each other makes us more risky to the rest of the population than couples who live together full time and spend most of their time together. 

Of course children have to be looked after. But if one parent isn’t currently working (already unemployed, having been made unemployed due to Coronavirus or just not currently at work because they’re not a key worker) then the children could reasonably spend all of the next few weeks with that parent rather than being passed between the two. I just wondered if that’s what separated parents would be intending to do in that situation to minimise the risk, to help us make the right decision.

It’s not your decision, you have been told very clearly what you should do. 

What you are deciding right now is whether to try and break the rules and put others at risk for your own selfishness.

I mean, you must have phones?  You’re on the Internet right now!

Moxley

laurajane6486 said:

I just wondered if that’s what separated parents would be intending to do in that situation to minimise the risk, to help us make the right decision.

I won’t be able to talk it over with my ex until tomorrow, but my interpretation of the rules is that we have to stay at home; no visiting anyone else unless to provide essential care to a vulnerable person. So my expectation is that I’ll have my kids at home with me, and they will have to make do with video calls with my ex until the restrictions are lifted.

laurajane6486

Moxley, thank you for the reply it’s helpful