30th birthday not wanting to celebrate

LudaMusser

I don’t like to celebrate my birthday, I don’t like the attention etc. 

pickledonionspaceraider

Clouds88 said:

I feel so trapped I cannot leave him as his family support is virtually none existent and obviously I want to help but it's so draining. Theres hardly any support or financial support, I have a good job and I guess I always thought I'd have more or done more by this time in my life not being poorer than I was when I was in my early 20's lol. 

(Sorry to derail) But do you want to leave him?

elsien

Telling his GP or any other MH support he has that he is having suicidal thoughts is not going to get him locked up in an institution.
The Mental Health Act references the least restrictive option which is to be supported in the community. Suicidal thoughts are more common than people might think, and there is a severe bed shortage. It would need to be very severe, with possibly some attempts to act on the thoughts to trigger any hospital admission.
He's not doing himself or you any favours by not talking to people about this. 

Jox

Hope you had a nice birthday however you celebrated. I'm sorry you and OH are having a bad time, it's awful dealing with an addiction. For your own sake I would tell your family and friends and not put on brave face. Maybe watch videos on youtube about gambling addiction and support for family members. My husband was drinking 4 times a week and I was trying to pretend to everyone that we were fine but end of last year I had enough, he was drinking and sleeping the next day and not giving me any money, it was going to the pub and I started to tell his family and mine what was going on and I didn't go with him to family events over Christmas as I didn't want to put on a fake face. Good luck and sounds like you're doing a great job holding everything together.