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Money Moral Dilemma: My parents want us to buy, my partner's say we should rent, what should we do?

MSE_Kelvin
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edited 18 February 2020 at 5:34PM in House buying, renting & selling
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...
Me and my partner are living with her parents but want to move out. My parents want us to buy, and have said they'll contribute, but hers say we should rent - possibly so we'll move out sooner. Whatever we do we'll upset one set of parents, so whose advice should we follow?
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  • daivid
    daivid Posts: 1,286 Forumite
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    Nowhere near enough information given for considered advice. You will need to investigate the pros and cons of each option and make a decision based on them.
  • Thrugelmir
    Thrugelmir Posts: 89,546 Forumite
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    Why would either set of parents get upset. Merely their opinion. Or are there material facts missings from the post made? 
  • AdrianC
    AdrianC Posts: 42,189 Forumite
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    Marvel1 said:
    You and partner decide, the parents don't get a say 
    ^ This.

    You're both grown adults. YOU decide.
  • Cakeguts
    Cakeguts Posts: 7,627 Forumite
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    Ignore both sets of parents and do what you want to do.
  • BrOz
    BrOz Posts: 96 Forumite
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    Do what makes you happy 
  • It seems that it's better to wait a little and buy a new house, rather then pay for a rent till forever
  • Sharon87
    Sharon87 Posts: 4,011 Forumite
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    Hovard said:
    It seems that it's better to wait a little and buy a new house, rather then pay for a rent till forever
    Not necessarily. Like the previous poster said - if a couple haven't lived together on their own before they should rent first before deciding to make that big financial commitment together. Maybe save up for a deposit whilst still living with the parents. Buying is a big commitment and expensive too. 

    Also screw the parents! They shouldn't get a say whether to rent or buy
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