Buying house with partner - need advice

tealady

Tell him where the door is and hope it smacks him on the a*se as he leaves.

SameOldRoundabout

Sadsacsal said:

Thank you all for your input - I really appreciate the time you have all taken.   I had a gut instinct that maybe he is controlling the situation but like I said I have no one to bounce off (my mum and my daughter dislike him). I feel that things are spiralling out of control and I’m getting washed away with it all.   Think I need to contact my solicitor before it’s too late. 

Oh my dear, this rings so many alarm bells. You don’t have to get washed away, you are capable and in control even if he likes to make you feel you’re not. Stop the process right now and tell him you’re not selling yet. He will no doubt kick up a fuss but that is on him, not you. If he wants somewhere to call his own he can put some of his generous income into savings. 

You can stop this. Don’t become financially abused as well as emotionally. Talk to your mum and your daughter, and stand up for yourself. 

Marvel1

Sadsacsal said:

He says he wants everything to be 50/50 so that we’ll be equal partners.  Which I get if we were married.   But we’re not.   He has a private pension which he has left to his sons in the event of his death and says he will sign his death in service to me - but I can’t help but feel vulnerable.  When I said 70/30 he said he needed somewhere he could call his own and is insisting one of the 2 bedrooms be a “guest” room for his sons.  The living room would have to be turned into a bedroom for my daughter until she leaves home. (She’s 21 and just started uni).    He even suggested that she should move in with her dad when not in uni (over the summer).  Am I being hoodwinked? Or over reacting? 

Do it alone.

Skiddaw1

OP, I honestly think you should tell him to sling his hook (and then change the locks). This ain't going to get any better and things could get progressively a whole, whole lot worse. Good luck.