Nursing home fees (no assets)

Morglin

Being in hospital makes it far easier, as hospital Social Services have to get involved.  

However, everyone needs to really stand firm - they will try to get the family to take her home, as it saves them, money, bed blocking and hassles.

You have to sound ruthless, and refuse any option, other than transfer to a home.

Good luck.

lisyloo

My FIL went to a meeting we had at the hospital with the discharge coordinator and others.
he struggled in on his zimmer and broke down emotionally as it was really hard for him to tell them he couldn’t look after his wife (from his point of view he was a complete failure).
this was a tough thing for him but it was necessary for them to see him.
they accepted it.
we found our social workers were great, FIL said everything was fine when it wasn’t and MIL complained about everything not being to her satisfaction. They could see through both personalities and see he had greater needs than he expressed.
but it’s a postcode lottery with the quality of staff.
sometimes someone has to outright refuse even if it is their spouse.

JGB1955

My father was admitted to hospital following an internal bleed.  It was decided that he was too weak for an exploratory endoscopy and a blood transfusion was arranged.  We were told his life expectancy was between 1 and 14 days.  Two days later we were told they wanted to discharge him.  I was gob smacked!  Apparently the blood transfusion had worked (although it was thought to grant only temporary respite) and he was bed blocking.  He was to be sent home for palliative care, only problem being his live-in carers had gone left his house by this stage and the care company were unwilling/unable to supply appropriate staff.  The hospital insisted he was going home and I had to kick up a huge fuss, explaining that if they did so, he wouldn't be able to even get through the front door on his own, let enough look after himself.  After a bit of to-ing and fro-ing the discharge team relented and found him a place in a Nursing Home (fully funded for the first 7 months).  He is still there, in body, if not in mind, 16 months later.....

Stick to your guns and refuse a home discharge!

Morglin

JGB1955 said:

My father was admitted to hospital following an internal bleed.  It was decided that he was too weak for an exploratory endoscopy and a blood transfusion was arranged.  We were told his life expectancy was between 1 and 14 days.  Two days later we were told they wanted to discharge him.  I was gob smacked!  Apparently the blood transfusion had worked (although it was thought to grant only temporary respite) and he was bed blocking.  He was to be sent home for palliative care, only problem being his live-in carers had gone left his house by this stage and the care company were unwilling/unable to supply appropriate staff.  The hospital insisted he was going home and I had to kick up a huge fuss, explaining that if they did so, he wouldn't be able to even get through the front door on his own, let enough look after himself.  After a bit of to-ing and fro-ing the discharge team relented and found him a place in a Nursing Home (fully funded for the first 7 months).  He is still there, in body, if not in mind, 16 months later.....

Stick to your guns and refuse a home discharge!








It may go on a while if your Dad’s  like mine.   He was sent to a nursing home with only a couple of weeks to live.

Four years on, he’s still alive, basically unconscious, needing turning every four hours, tube  fed,  but breathing, and on it goes.

Lin

MoneySeeker1

Very sad seeing some of the comments here. Am following this because in similar situation.