Friend refusing to give me back my door keys

click_451

A friend and I exchanged front door keys for safekeeping as we live close to each other. Unfortunately, since the end of September we are no longer on speaking terms and I would like to have my keys back (a Yale key plus a fob which would cost between £15-£20 to replace) and return her keys to her (a Yale and a Chubb).  I saw her at a gathering the weekend where she did not speak to me so I messaged her the next day asking her to name a time convenient to her when I could get my keys and return hers but she is not replying. I’d rather not have to fork out for a new fob. Should I pursue this or just let it go?

kazwookie

Yes get it sorted, as it stands she can let her self  or others in to your home at any time, is that what you want?

74jax

I'd change the lock and not contact her anymore. Yes it costs you money, but just do it and move on. 

comeandgo

Change the lock.  You have no guarantee she has not taken copies.

pinkshoes

Another vote for just changing the lock.

life is too short to waste time and energy over this.

zagubov

Absolutely change the lock. And move on.

Marvel1

Much easier to just change locks.

discat11

Change the lock and do it asap.
Keep the receipt/s for this work and if she wants to renew your friendship she can repay you at that time.

Act the bigger person mind - physically push her keys back into her hand (with a witness) at the next opportunity.

DCFC79

Another vote to changing the lock, yes its hassle but at least you will know she can't get in.

badmemory

Another vote for changing your locks, if not you may (only may) find your insurance doesn't cover you.

pickledonionspaceraider

click_451 said:

A friend and I exchanged front door keys for safekeeping as we live close to each other. Unfortunately, since the end of September we are no longer on speaking terms and I would like to have my keys back (a Yale key plus a fob which would cost between £15-£20 to replace) and return her keys to her (a Yale and a Chubb).  I saw her at a gathering the weekend where she did not speak to me so I messaged her the next day asking her to name a time convenient to her when I could get my keys and return hers but she is not replying. I’d rather not have to fork out for a new fob. Should I pursue this or just let it go?

I would go and knock on her door, with her key in hand, and demand to swap back - that would be very hard to ignore. 
 It would be stupid of her to take copies, any unlawful entry to your house would be easily traced back to her. Unless you feel she is completely dodgy and wouldn't care and then I would change the locks
To be fair, I am surprised you have left it this long until fate brought you together at a gathering.  
I had a similar situation with a neighbour whom I once gave a spare key to, and there was a falling out - all I did was knock the door and ask for my key, then walk away.  I didn't change the locks, but I did get the key back IMMEDIATELY, which I think is perhaps the crux, she has not been your friend for several months now and has had your key. ...Depends on the kind of person she is I guess