Moving into a new property, know someone who lives in the set of flats accidentally?

datlex

I recently found out one of my neighbours (further down street) works in the opticians I go to.  Would you think anything strange of that?

diggingdude

many people, if they knew someone had mental health problems would rather not be involved/chat etc. It scares them or they are too busy themselves.  In work they have no choice but to stop/talk/be nice.  Outside of work they likely don't want to know you so don't worry about it

sammyjammy

Also if she has only seen you at the cafe she may not even recognise you if she passes you in the corridor or something in the flats, sometimes if I see people from work outside of work its out of context and it takes me a while to work out who they are 

Doozergirl

caprikid1 said:

I think you keep moving to get away from your problems but your problems are in your head so unfortunately you are bringing them with you and unpacking them all over again.

No matter where you go, there you are. 

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Pretty much everyone is thinking about what other people think of them.   If you stop to think about it, you spend so much time doing that, that there's no time to think about other people.  That's the same for everyone. 

Fact is, what other people think of me is none of my business.  What people think actually has zero affect on my life or even my present moment.  The day I learned that was the day my mental health took a massive turn for the better.  I cannot possibly ever assume to think that I know what other people think, so its pointless energy.    Do not believe everything you think either - if you're listening, who is doing the talking exactly?

Houses don't make you ill, people don't make you ill.  Any feeling comes from inside you, not from outside forces.  

This is all about finding the right person to help you through your issues, OP.  Nothing to do with the flat or the lady from the café. 

Falafels

Firstly, well done on getting alternative accommodation sorted while you're feeling this vulnerable. Good move!

Don't worry about the woman from the cafe. If you see her, or she recognises you, there's nothing wrong with saying 'Hi!', but other than there's no need to talk to her about your issues. That's what your mental health professionals are for, and it's nobody else's business. Also, she may not even live there - just be visiting someone who does. Whatever, you have the right to guard your privacy.

I can understand that you'd like to have a 'fresh start' after having had a rough time, but it's very unlikely this lady is judging you harshly. After all, the cafe's been fine about you going there every day for the last eight months and I'm sure it'll stay that way!

Good luck in your new home!