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00ec25

obsidianfox wrote: »

When I had my own place I had a shower once a day about 10am, I had a combi boiler so no probs with hot water. I used to eat 3 times a day and eat after 8pm and sometimes have a snack after 10pm. All these replies are ok but only really work for a 9-5 job. So I eat once a day now as I cant be bothered with hot water.

Don't you think that having no hot water to wash up is bad, having to boil kettles is inefficient...

the recurring issue in this thread that you are repeatedly ignoring that you have chosen to live in a shared property but you expect everyone else to adjust to your needs without you showing any consideration whatsoever for whether your preferences may be disturbing them

as others have said, you are clearly unsuitable for shared accommodation and should get a place of your own . however, given your dependency on benefits your choice will be restricted, but still possible. The bottom line remains though that you seem to refuse to accept that you have compromise to fit in with others.

I had a lodger for 12 years who worked 9 hour shifts (low pay). Once every 2 weeks he did "lates" returning home at 3am - he did not start cooking his "evening" meal until 7am out of respect for me not working those hours and still being asleep. When he did earlies he left at 2am and would do so quietly after having breakfasted on cold food. He would then be asleep by 7pm so when I got home I would use headphones on the TV and not clatter around in the kitchen.

he (pathologically) showered every day fitting that in around who needed the bathroom when

it is called compromising and respecting other people's needs. Your posts to date are all me, me, me

csgohan4

00ec25 wrote: »

the recurring issue in this thread that you are repeatedly ignoring that you have chosen to live in a shared property but you expect everyone else to adjust to your needs without you showing any consideration whatsoever for whether your preferences may be disturbing them

as others have said, you are clearly unsuitable for shared accommodation and should get a place of your own . however, given your dependency on benefits your choice will be restricted, but still possible. The bottom line remains though that you seem to refuse to accept that you have compromise to fit in with others.

I had a lodger for 12 years who worked 9 hour shifts (low pay). Once every 2 weeks he did "lates" returning home at 3am - he did not start cooking his "evening" meal until 7am out of respect for me not working those hours and still being asleep. When he did earlies he left at 2am and would do so quietly after having breakfasted on cold food. He would then be asleep by 7pm so when I got home I would use headphones on the TV and not clatter around in the kitchen.

he (pathologically) showered every day fitting that in around who needed the bathroom when

it is called compromising and respecting other people's needs. Your posts to date are all me, me, me

I wish every lodger/tenant was like that, so respectful and accommodating. Now a days people feel they are so entitled and the world revolves around them.

Either that or you gave them tea and cakes to discuss arrangements

00ec25

csgohan4 wrote: »

Either that or you gave them tea and cakes to discuss arrangements

we were never friends and did not socialise together, but he was indeed a very nice bloke and probably with what are now labelled as "old fashioned" values and personal integrity.

getmore4less

What are the rules on this must do work if you don't have a job?

Crumble2018

obsidianfox wrote: »

All these replies are ok but only really work for a 9-5 job. So I eat once a day now as I cant be bothered with hot water.

But your post says that you're not working?

GaleSF63

obsidianfox wrote: »

When I had my own place I had a shower once a day about 10am, I had a combi boiler so no probs with hot water. I used to eat 3 times a day and eat after 8pm and sometimes have a snack after 10pm. All these replies are ok but only really work for a 9-5 job.

There's nothing to stop you doing exactly that now.

yksi

Can't believe you are still complaining and finding new things to be unhappy about. £1 for a load of washing is NOTHING, a single person not working can easily get by on two loads a month, think about how long it would take you for that £2 a month to cost more than buying and running your own washer!

Wake up, your board and lodging is a reasonable price overall, the rules are reasonable, and the real issue is that you want to be an unemployed housebound inconsiderate housemate getting everything for free.

Smodlet

Unless I have misunderstood, you are not currently working, OP so your time is your own. If you know when hot water/whatever is available there is no reason other than ego not to adapt your lifestyle to suit these restrictions you perceive; they seem pretty loose to me.

Buses run when they run, that's why taxis cost more. If you want the world to dance to your tune, you have to be able to pay for that.

As others have said, if you don't like it, move. If you can't afford to, deal with and be grateful for what you have. 20 hours a week is fewer than 3 per day. Most of us who have our own homes spend at least that doing chores anyway.

You get what you (can) pay for. If you want to run your own life any way you choose, find a job which will enable you to do so. If you can't, adapt to the situation as the rest of us have to. I would like to live in a mansion with acres of parkland and a full complement of servants; ain't gonna happen. Sorry, that's the way the world works.

onwards&upwards

obsidianfox wrote: »

If you don't do the hours or jobs you are asked to leave!

Work your way through this, and ring the helpline for advice if you think you need to after reading the info.

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/work/rights-at-work/pay/getting-paid-less-than-minimum-wage-or-living-wage/

bouicca21

I rather suspect that OP is in some kind of support scheme that is outside minimum wage criteria, but if he/she did get paid, that would be the end of universal credit, wouldn’t it?