My Ex Wants More Than Half of the Sale!

RebeccaMay121

gary83 wrote: »

Your replies do seem a bit confused about what you want out of the situation. is your ex boyfriend, his girlfriend and all their family and friends abusive or threatening towards you when they're shopping?



If they're just carrying out their shopping, regardless of how uncomfortable it makes you you can't reasonably expect everyone that knows him to stop shopping at that Asda, Tescos or whatever. Good luck with getting out of the area, sounds like you need that clean slate.

I just want to leave. I want to walk away with a clean slate, on an equal footing with my ex, halving everything even if it leaves me with nothing left. I just wanted to know if he could go for more.
I get a lot of dirty looks, whispers, deliberate walk by's 4/5 times a day. I've worked there for 7 years now, and have never seen them before the my ex started going out with his girlfriend. I know it's my problem and I know since I work in a supermarket there's nothing I can do - hence me planning on relocating, which my ex doesn't want me to do. He wants me to stay in the same house, in the same job, stuck in a rut while he runs around with his new life. I shouldn't have to be on edge at work all the time, I shouldn't have to come home and be paranoid about every noise in case it's my ex coming back again - so I'm pulling up my big girl pants, putting my hands up and saying enough is enough. Instead of expecting others to take my feelings into account and make my life easier, I'll do it for myself.

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RebeccaMay121 wrote: »

The £2750 is the amount my ex has contributed, which I was using to demonstrate how little he has contributed to the house - I have paid double that.I know it won't make any difference but for the sake of illustration, I thought it emphasised how little time he was at the house. I'm literally just trying to figure out if he can take me for more money. I don't care how much comes to me as, like everyone has pointed out, it will be little to nothing anyway and I have no plans relying on it - but I do have that shared debt and I don't want to be screwed over because he thinks he's entitled to more. I have a child to think about, to house and clothe and raise while he has lodge and holidays. I consider half the equity to be fair. It should clear my debt, and let me go from the house with a clean slate.

As has already been explained what either of you put in is irrelevant because you are joint tenants and therefore legally entitled to half each. It's up to you if you'd be happy to walk away with less or nothing at all for the sake of moving on.

nomorekids

Rebecca May

You are entitled to a lot more than you think and must in my opinion fight for it, if only for your son. Your earnings are less because of childcare remember, your son lives with you and must have roof over his and your, as principal carer, head. This happened to me and I received 100% of jointly owned house as my solicitor argued well for me plus ex was ordered to pay 100% of joint mortgage because one of my kids was newborn at the time. Once, I went back to work, ex altered financial arrangement to me paying toward mortgage less childcare. All very fair and reasonable and eventually, I paid 100% mortgage when I remortgaged to cheaper rate and put mortgage into my name but that was like 4 years later. I was very glad of getting the house, I can tell you because like you want to do, I sold up and started again fresh elsewhere.

RebeccaMay121

nomorekids wrote: »

Rebecca May

You are entitled to a lot more than you think and must in my opinion fight for it, if only for your son. Your earnings are less because of childcare remember, your son lives with you and must have roof over his and your, as principal carer, head. This happened to me and I received 100% of jointly owned house as my solicitor argued well for me plus ex was ordered to pay 100% of joint mortgage because one of my kids was newborn at the time. Once, I went back to work, ex altered financial arrangement to me paying toward mortgage less childcare. All very fair and reasonable and eventually, I paid 100% mortgage when I remortgaged to cheaper rate and put mortgage into my name but that was like 4 years later. I was very glad of getting the house, I can tell you because like you want to do, I sold up and started again fresh elsewhere.

I've been told so many different things by people.
Some say go for 100%
I know guys who only got 20% of the equity because children were involved.
I know some who have said that because of the debts in his name, my ex will get more.
Some say if he expects me to pay for my half of the £13k debt, he should repay me half of the mortgage payments he's missed.
To be honest, none of this was even an issue until he mentioned going to solicitors to divide the money up. It never crossed my mind to have any more or less than 50% and yet again, he's thinking of himself not his son. Whatever he takes from me, affects his child. This money will literally make no difference to his daily life, but to get out of the house will make me, and his son a lot happier and healthier. I'm having to rely on my mum for childcare 4 days a week, but after Christmas my parents want to move away so it'll be nursery.
I have considered remortgaging (due in June) as the rate would drop and be more affordable... but I'd still have to deal with him and the gf every day at work, I'd still be on edge going to the shop in case I see them. I love the house. Because it was my grandmas, I spent so much of my childhood here and have amazing memories ... and a part of me would love to live in it forever, raise my son in the same place my mother and I was raised... but it's not worth my sanity.

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nomorekids wrote: »

Rebecca May

You are entitled to a lot more than you think and must in my opinion fight for it, if only for your son. Your earnings are less because of childcare remember, your son lives with you and must have roof over his and your, as principal carer, head. This happened to me and I received 100% of jointly owned house as my solicitor argued well for me plus ex was ordered to pay 100% of joint mortgage because one of my kids was newborn at the time. Once, I went back to work, ex altered financial arrangement to me paying toward mortgage less childcare. All very fair and reasonable and eventually, I paid 100% mortgage when I remortgaged to cheaper rate and put mortgage into my name but that was like 4 years later. I was very glad of getting the house, I can tell you because like you want to do, I sold up and started again fresh elsewhere.

The difference is that you were married, the OP is not and therefore the assets and liabilities of the partnership will not be divided up in the same way. Courts don't get involved when co-habiting couples split up.